How Do We Combine Our Initials Into a Joint Monogram?

Updated 05/09/14

Paul Barnett

We love the idea of creating a joint monogram combining your and your groom's initials. The design can be incorporated throughout the wedding, as well as in your home after the big day. But the formal etiquette of which letter goes where can become a bit tricky. Whose initials go first? Which letter goes in the middle? Our etiquette experts are here to answer your monogramming questions in our daily post.

I like the idea of combining our initials to create a shared monogram. What's the best way to do this?

Monograms make wedding details—like your ceremony programs and cocktail napkins—feel customized and bespoke. And the new combined monogram can be widely incorporated into your wedding registry: engraved onto your barware and crystal, embroidered onto linens, anything goes!

If you're taking your groom's last name, the monogram consists of your first initial, his last initial, then his first initial, placed in a line from left to right. The middle letter is larger than those on the sides. Or, you could opt for a single initial—the first letter of his last name. If you've decided to keep your last name (or if both the bride and groom are hyphenating their last names), then the monogram would feature your first and last initials, followed by his first and last initials to create a contemporary four-letter monogram. Then, the middle two letters would be larger than the two on the sides. Last option: A simpler alternative to either last-name situation would be to avoid it entirely and use the bride's first initial, followed by an ampersand, followed by the groom's first initial.

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