As a bride, you'll find yourself turning to your maid of honor for so many things during the wedding adventure. She'll easily become your right-hand gal-pal, there for you when you're on the edge of a pre-wedding panic attack or in the middle of making a tough wedding decision, like what kind of flowers you should put in the bouquet or what color the bridesmaid dresses should be. You'll even put your faith in her to plan your bachelorette party or possibly your bridal shower.
But one of the very last and final tasks your maid-of-honor will do for you is give a toast on your wedding day, in front of your family and friends. So what can you do to ensure that the speech won't embarrass you or include too many details about that "Spring Break trip that must not be mentioned" you took many years ago?
You want to give your maid of honor freedom and not be too much of a micro-manager when she's writing it, but at the same time, you want to remind her who the audience is. It's best if you casually mention to her that she should keep the reception speech PG. If she wants to talk about embarrassing stories or even ex-boyfriends, the time and place to do that is on the bachelorette party.
If you're still a little worried about what she's going to say, have another close friend give it a read beforehand. That way, it's still a surprise to you on the day of the wedding. Just not a surprise that will make your cheeks flush or potentially sour your entire day.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.