Cutting down your guest list — filled with close friends, family members, co-workers, plus your parent's neighbors and your future in-law's favorite people — can seem like an utterly impossible task. But it can be done. And here, four brides reveal how they made significant headway in cutting their own guest count down.
"We made a rule that any second connections — in other words, people we hadn't personally met — couldn't come," says one woman. "That was an easy cut for us to make, but the challenge was explaining to friends why they couldn't bring a date, unless they were seriously dating someone, of course, and others, like our parents, who wanted to invite their friends whom we hadn't seen since we were children."
"Honestly? I made my fiancé do it!" says another bride. "By the time we made our guest list, I was eyeball deep and too connected to everything to be able to rationally make cuts. This was a great job for my fiancé, who has a much more practical mind than me! He saw the 'extras' and easily crossed them off."
"We made our guest list in tiers: Guest Group A, Guest Group B, and so on, in order of importance," describes one bride. "The we sent our invitations out in waves, so that we only turned to our B list when our A list RSVPs had already responded. It took some extra planning on our part, but we were able to hit a certain number so easily by sending our invitations this way!"
"We asked ourselves for every single guest, 'would we notice if this person wasn't there?'" says another bride. "You'd be surprised how many people make your list that, when you're honest, you know you wouldn't miss if they didn't show up. We probably cut our list down by one-third by asking this question alone."