Being proposed to by the person you love is a dream come true. But what if they open up the ring box and you don’t love what you see? Our experts have some tips for tactfully telling your fiancé that you hate your engagement ring.
If you’ve put the ring on your finger and just can’t imagine wearing it every day for the rest of your life, you should speak up. While the engagement ring is a big purchase for your fiancé to make, it should also be something you absolutely love having on your hand!
You should also, of course, be sensitive when doing so. Make it clear that you are thrilled to be getting married, but that the ring itself isn’t your taste. He will most likely want to do whatever it takes to make you happy, so it’s time to get to work.
If he purchased the ring new, head back to the jeweler together. You could keep the center stone and have it changed to a different setting, or spend the afternoon trying on rings together until you find a completely new style that you both love. Remember to be respectful of his budget when doing so, and ask him to work with the jeweler to ensure the options you’re considering are something you can afford.
Is the ring a family heirloom of some sort? Find out if you can have the ring re-set. That could mean designing a new ring to hold a family stone, using the metal from the original ring to create a wedding band, or purchasing a ring enhancer (which fits snugly around an engagement ring to add heft, and often additional sparkle, to the original setting) to transform a more simple ring into a design that’s more your style.
Not sure if you can bring it up at all? Don’t lose sight of what the ring represents. It’s a meaningful gift that you should cherish either way, and when it comes time to shop for wedding bands, you might just be able to find something to help transform it into the ring of your dreams.
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