Weddings are such an exciting time, and often there's tons of information to share with all interested parties. Sometimes, you might feel like shouting from the rooftops all the details and thoughts that are going into your big day. Other times, there are more private matters to keep to yourself.
Unfortunately, sometimes people get overly excited and take their curiosity a bit too far when they ask questions that are too personal, intrusive, or, quite frankly, none of their damn business! We're here to help. Here are three gracious ways to handle these awkward and sometimes downright nosy encounters.
You need to be a bit quick on your feet for this one, but it works like a charm. This classic maneuver can easily shift the unwanted focus off of you and put it back on the other party, or others in general. For example, if someone says something along the lines of "Wow, you must really have a huge budget for all you're planning! What's this costing you?" (::cringe::) you can respond, "Oh, you know weddings aren't free! OMG did you see (insert: latest episode of your favorite show/last night's sports game/etc. here)?" By guiding the focus to a neutral topic, you can avoid having to answer the question while subtly hinting that you really don't want to answer it either.
In the unfortunate circumstance that the inquisitive person persists in asking, you can try again to redirect. If that doesn't work, don't worry—there's another way out.
No, you don't have to be open and honest in regard to what they're asking you, but you can be honest in explaining that you find the question rather intrusive and prefer not to answer. Chances are this person doesn't even realize she's asking something that makes you uncomfortable. By politely explaining the way the question is making you feel or simply responding with "I prefer not to say right now," you can avoid having to answer and you'll walk away with integrity and peace. As always, communication is golden!
Think Before You Speak
Chances are you've heard this since you were a little kid, but it takes on a new meaning in adulthood. It's easy to respond too truthfully or in an unintended tone when you're thrown off guard by an unanticipated question. Should this situation arise, take time to process what's being asked, why it's being asked, who is asking it and even where (or around whom) it's being asked, too. Whether you opt to answer it or not is entirely up to you, but regardless of your reply—it's important to take note of who may be within earshot.