First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes…well, you know how it goes! But we all know that sometimes those questions about when you’ll have kids can start before you’ve even walked down the aisle. That prying can be hard to handle, especially when you’ve got a lot on your plate, being in the midst of wedding planning, even before you've started thinking about the future and a possible pregnancy! So what’s the best way to fend off these way-too-personal questions? Our experts have some tips—no matter who the questions are coming from.
It’s tempting to tell the person asking to mind his or her own business, but the last thing you want to do is ruffle feathers or start an argument—especially over a topic that can be particularly sensitive and personal. Instead, find a way to delicately answer the question—then change the subject! Remember that when (or if!) you’re having kids is no one’s business but yours and your future spouse’s. So no matter when the questions come or who is asking, you don’t have to answer! An easy way to change the subject is to brush it off lightly. Try something like “You know, that’s something that we’d prefer to discuss, just the two of us. But if we ever have an announcement to make about children, we’ll be sure to let you know!”
The great thing is, not being married yet is a fantastic way to brush off this line of questioning. No matter how traditional or nontraditional a couple you might be, most questions about procreating come from older relatives, which means telling them you’re waiting to have children until you’ve said “I do” will be more than placating. Want to buy a little extra time? Let them know you’re not even discussing it until you’ve walked down the aisle—even if you’re actually already making plans!