An Easy Breakdown of Wedding Ceremony Orders

The different wedding ceremony orders can be broken down into these parts. You can use these templates as a foundation for your own.

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Wondering how to plan out your wedding ceremony order? The great news is that most ceremonies follow a similar format, so if you've been to (or been in) a few, you've probably got an idea of how the wedding order of service usually flows.

Of course, different cultures and religions incorporate different distinctive elements, and there's so much to love about each! "Traditional, Jewish, Catholic, and nondenominational weddings usually have ring exchanges, whereas Hindu weddings exchange beautiful garlands created from flowers," says Victoria Miller, founder and lead wedding planner at LUXE Atlanta Events. Traditional and nondenominational wedding ceremonies are most flexible and similar to each other in terms of structure, while the religious ceremonies are a lot less adjustable. Catholic weddings, for instance, must always be held inside a church—no exceptions.

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Victoria Miller is the founder and lead wedding planner at LUXE Atlanta Events, a wedding planning company based in Atlanta, Georgia.

While there tend to be variations based on regional and ethnic differences in each type of wedding ceremony, we broke down the main structure of each type of ceremony for you to use as the ultimate guide in creating a ceremony of your own. Read on to learn how a ceremony usually runs, from walking down the aisle to the first kiss!

Traditional Wedding

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Traditional wedding ceremonies are perfect for the classic bride who wants a more conventional celebration. "There is typically a welcome or introduction by the minister, followed by the exchange of vows. The couple then exchanges rings, and after the couple shares a kiss, the minister announces them for the first time as a married couple," says Miller.

Wedding Ceremony Order of Events
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1. The Processional

First off, the processional. This is when members of your immediate family and wedding party head down the aisle and either find a seat or take their places on either side of the altar. The processional begins with the bride's mother, groom, the best man, the paired up wedding party, flower girl, and ring bearer. It ends with the bride making her entrance escorted by her father who "gives her away" to the groom.

2. Words of Welcome

Once everyone is in place, the officiant will say a few words of welcome. He or she may thank guests for bearing witness to your union, as well as welcome everyone to your venue and your celebration.

3. Opening Remarks and Introduction

Next, the officiant will offer an introduction and some thoughts on marriage. This could be a brief recounting of your love story, words on what marriage means to you, or a statement about the ceremony to come and what it represents.

4. Readings

From there, if you are including readings of any sort in your ceremony, readers will be invited up to share a few words. You could have your officiant introduce each reading and reader or have things flow more naturally between readers.

5. Officiant Addresses Couple

This is when the officiant addresses you and talks about the responsibilities of marriage and the sanctity of the vows you're about to take.

6. Exchange Vows

After the readings have been shared, the two of you will exchange vows. This is often the emotional part of the ceremony especially if you write your own vows.

You could opt to write your own vows, share personal statements and then exchange the same vows, or use traditional phrasing.

7. Ring Exchange

After each person recites the vows, you will place the rings on each other's fingers as a symbol of your marriage.

8. The Kiss

Now, the good part! After you've exchanged vows and rings, the two of you get to seal your marriage with a kiss. You're officially husband and wife!

9. Unity Ceremony

If you're planning on having a unity ceremony, this is a good time to incorporate it. In a unity ritual, the couple does something that physically symbolizes their new union, such as using two candles to light a single candle or binding their hands together with a ribbon.

10. Closing Remarks

If your ceremony is a religious affair, this is the proper time for a final prayer.

11. The Recessional

The officiant introduces the married couple for the first time. Then, the bride and groom lead the recessional back up the aisle as guests shower you with rice!

Jewish Wedding

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Prior to the ceremony, the couple signs a marriage contract, called the Ketubah, in private. It could be signed at the groom's reception, the day before the wedding, or even 30 minutes before the ceremony begins. It's proceeded by the Bedeken, or the veiling, where the groom veils her face. This tradition comes from the story of Jacob in the Bible who was tricked into marrying the sister of his betrothed because she was veiled.

Unlike other ceremonies, in Jewish weddings, the bride and her party are on the right while the groom and his party are on the left. Perhaps the most famous parts of the Jewish wedding are the glass breaking and the screaming of Mazel Tov!

1. The Processional

The rabbi and/or cantor have the option of leading the processional or arriving from the side to mark the beginning of the ceremony. The grandparents of the bride, who are the first to walk down the aisle, will sit on the first row on the right side, followed by the grandparents of the groom who will sit on the left side. The groomsmen will then enter in pairs, followed by the best man. Finally, the groom, escorted by his parents, will walk to the chuppah. The bridesmaids follow in pairs, then the maid of honor, the ring bearer(s), or flower girl(s). Finally, the bride walks to the chuppah escorted by both parents.

2. Vows Under the Chuppah

Jewish wedding ceremonies are conducted under a beautiful four-poled canopy structure called a chuppah. You recite your vows to each other under the chuppah, which represents the creation of a new Jewish home. You could be accompanied by your parents under the structure or stand alone.

3. Hakafot or Circling

Once you arrive at the chuppah, a ritual called circling, hailing from the Ashkenazi tradition, occurs where the bride circles the groom seven times, intended to symbolize the bride creating a wall of protection over the groom. Typically there is a blessing and you share a drink of wine from the same cup. More modern couples circle each other, three times each and then once again each, to signify a more equitable division of roles.

4. Ring Exchange

The groom then gives a ring to the bride, and the ketubah is read aloud. Many ceremonies recite the blessings and prayers in Hebrew, but more modern weddings incorporate English so non-Hebrew-speaking guests can understand the sacred elements.

5. Sheva B'rachot: Seven Blessings

The Seven Blessings are chanted over the couple. Though they are typically recited by the officiant, you may choose family members and honored guests to recite the text in Hebrew or English. Then you both take another drink from the cup.

6. Breaking of the Glass

"The bride then gives the groom his ring, after which the groom breaks a glass by stomping on it, which symbolizes the destruction of the temple in Jerusalem," says Miller. The glass is typically wrapped in a cloth to avoid any injuries.

7. Mazel Tov

Ah, the guests' favorite! After the breaking of the glass, guests are invited to shout "Mazel Tov!" which means congratulations.

Hindu Wedding

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If you've been to a Hindu wedding, you'll know that they are often long, fantastical, and opulent events. "Hindu weddings are traditionally elaborate events lasting multiple days. While the ceremony is only one of the days, the festivities and traditions surrounding the wedding stretch the event out," says Miller.

1. Baraat or The Groom's Arrival

The Baraat is the groom's wedding procession where the groom arrives on a ceremonial white horse escorted by all his friends and family. There is live music and dancing, which can go on for a few hours!

2. Milni

The groom is greeted by the parents of the bride and her closest friends. He could be given shagun, a token of good luck. He could also be given cash or clothes, or sometimes fed food by the bride's parents.

3. Jai Mala Garland Exchange

"The bride and groom perform a garland exchange under a mandap or a beautifully decorated, raised canopy-like platform," says Miller. The bride's parents will join the couple's hands, as a symbol of giving their daughter away. The ceremony begins and the couple is joined by their parents under the mandap. The priest begins prayers in Sanskrit.

4. Agni Poojan or the Sacred Fire

In the center of the mandap, a sacred fire is lit. The rite invokes the fire deity Agni, brought to life through the fire, to bear witness to the celebration. The bride throws fistfuls of rice to the fire as offerings known as homam.

5. Saptapadi or the Seven Steps

This is where you take seven steps together to symbolize friendship—the basis of a Hindu marriage. Depending on specific geographical traditions, your garments may be tied together and you may take seven steps or circle the fire seven times. This is the most important step in a Hindu marriage, and after this, you are officially married.

6. Final Blessings

"The ceremony typically ends with prayers, readings, and blessings from their elders," says Miller. The couple's parents and priest typically bless the newlyweds but special guests are also encouraged.

7. Talambralu

This marks the end of the ceremony where you shower each other with rice, saffron, and turmeric to rake in prosperity in your marriage.

Catholic Wedding

Homily during a Catholic wedding
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A couple of major distinctions that you'll find during a Catholic ceremony are that one, they will always be held in the church. The Catholic Church believes that marriage, also known as the sacrament of matrimony, is a sacred covenant between the couple and God, and because God is present in the physical church, there is no other place to celebrate a blessed union. Outdoor Catholic wedding ceremonies just do not exist. (The architecture of churches is gorgeous though so it's definitely an experience to witness weddings in beautiful, grand places of worship!) Two, in Catholic weddings, couples do not write their own vows and the marriage rites are often part of a bigger Catholic mass.

1. The Processional

During Catholic weddings, the priest and the ministers often walk to the altar as part of the processional. Then, when the priest arrives at the altar, that's when the wedding party follows. The groom enters, followed by the best man, the groomsmen, the maid of honor, the bridesmaids, the ring bearer, flower girl, and then the bride escorted by her father.

2. Entrance Rites

Catholic weddings are often in the form of the mass, especially if both parties are Catholic. The priest beings with rites and a prayer.

3. Readings

To start off the Liturgy of the Word, designated guests or family members will be assigned readings from the Bible. One from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament, and the Responsorial Psalm that the guests will repeat in unison. Miller says that at least one of these readings will explicitly be about marriage.

If you are unable to fit all your loved ones into the bridal party, assign them to readings instead which are a big part of the mass. Otherwise, assign them to bring gifts to the altar as part of the Offertory.

4. Gospel

Everyone rises as the priest reads a select passage from one of the gospels from the Four Evangelists Mark, Matthew, Luke, and John.

5. Homily

Guests are seated while the priest interprets the gospel. This is also where the priest talks about marriage and a little bit about the couple's union.

6. Rite of Marriage (vows)

The Catholic Church has its own set of vows, no embellishments or personalization allowed. You could either memorize or read the vows off of a book, or you could have the priest read them to you and respond with the classic "I Do."

7. Ring Ceremony

You will exchange rings as the priest blesses them.

8. Offertory

Usually set to a tune, select guests will walk down the aisle to offer gifts and parts of the mass to use. You usually choose who to include in the offertory.

9. Liturgy of the Eucharist

This begins with the priest praying over bread and wine, believed to transform into the body and blood of Christ.

10. Lord's Prayer

This is where the congregation holds hands and recites the Lord's Prayer in unison.

11. Sign of Peace

Attendees are asked to give each other peace.

12. Holy Communion

This is where members of the congregation line up to take part in the Holy Eucharist symbolizing the body of Christ. Those who don't wish to be a part of it may stay in their seats.

13. The Kiss

This is where the priest tells the groom to kiss the bride. This can also be done after the exchange of rings. This marks that you are now officially married!

14. Nuptial Blessing

The priest gives the final blessing to the members of the congregation.

15. The Recessional

The wedding party and the newlyweds walk down the aisle in reverse order of which they came in. Flower girls usually sprinkle petals as they walk down the aisle or guests can be given either rice to throw or blow bubbles at the couple as they walk past.

Nondenominational Wedding

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The ceremony order at nondenominational weddings is similar to traditional weddings, but with a lot more flexibility for couples to plug and play and put their own stamp on rituals. "The couple may choose to include a unifying ritual within the ceremony, such as a unity candle or similar ritual," says Miller.

1. The Processional

The groom and the groomsmen can choose to enter from the side and wait for the wedding party to walk down the aisle. If the groom chooses to lead the processional, he will be followed by the best man, groomsmen and bridesmaids, typically in pairs, the maid of honor, ring bearer and flower girl, and the bride with one or both parents.

2. Opening Remarks or Introduction

The officiant gives the opening remarks and addresses the guests.

3. Readings

For non-religious ceremonies, you may assign guests to read your favorite passages from novels, favorite poems, or even meaningful quotes.

4. Unity Candle

Couples typically opt to light a unity candle during nondenominational ceremonies. As you light the candle, the officiant narrates the importance of the act as a symbol of commitment and unity.

5. Unifying Ritual

Nondenominational weddings are extremely customizable and couples may opt to personalize the unifying ritual based on their passions or based on something meaningful to their love. You may choose to do a handfasting ritual, jump the broom, pour sand, create a time capsule, or even plant a tree!

6. Exchange of Vows

This is where the two of you exchange vows. Your vows can be personalized, memorized, or facilitated by the officiant.

7. Exchange of Rings

After the vows, this is where you each place a ring on the other's finger to symbolize your marriage.

8. The Kiss

Ah, our favorite part, this is where you kiss! Congratulations, you are now newlyweds!

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