Playing games is for high school sweethearts too young to know what real love looks like, right? Right — to a point. Because while toying with someone's emotions for sport is never cool, games initiated in good fun can add excitement and intrigue to an already solid relationship.
"Playing games is a bad thing if it involves deception or dishonesty," says Sherry Argov, author of Why Men Love Bitches. "But as long as there is no dishonesty or intent to be deceitful or hurtful, there is nothing wrong with being strategic. To me, playing games simply implies you're making strategic decisions rather than emotional ones."
So if you're looking for creative ways to keep or reignite your relationship spark, here are three expert-approved games you can — and should! — play in your marriage.
1. Be mysterious.
"Mystery turns men on the way romance turns women on," says Argov. And let's be honest, women can like it, too! "The whole art of seduction is about being slightly elusive. Be truthful, but don't be an open book. Don't always let him know what you are thinking. They love to feel like there is more to the story than what they already know. This doesn't hurt men — it excites them."
2. Communicate with actions rather than words.
"When you communicate verbally, you are putting all your cards on the table," Argov says. "And that's the quickest way to become boring. Men like to figure women out as if they are putting pieces of a puzzle together. If a man cannot predict what you will do or what you are thinking, he will [be intrigued]."
3. Be independent.
"Be the woman he fell in love with," says Argov. "Keep your job, your hobbies, and your close friends. Keep your bank account and credit cards, and keep taking care of yourself. Men value women who don't need them. So don't try to turn into an obedient domestic servant who cooks and cleans because you think that is what he likes, or because that's what society expects. Take steps every day to have the ability to stand on your own two feet. This will not only benefit you, it will keep his interest."