How to Avoid an Awkward Wedding Kiss

Still from the movie 'The Wedding Singer' of Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler's characters kissing

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You've made out with your guy a million times, so you figure your first kiss as a married couple will be a breeze. Then the wedding finally arrives and your stomach is all in knots and you end up bumping heads trying to lock lips in front of everyone. Unfortunately, it happens to the best of us. To avoid a potentially embarrassing moment on your big day (albeit a really funny story later down the line), heed the advice of these wedding planners, who know all too well about first kiss awkwardness.

Practice Makes Perfect

The easiest way to approach your first kiss, according to Tracie Domino, founder of Tracie Domino Events, is to treat it like you're on stage and practice, practice, practice. "Know what foot you will step forward with and where your arms will go," she says. "Also, it's critically important to kiss longer than you think is necessary to ensure the photographer gets a great shot. If it's a quick peck, they could miss it!" Think Drew Barrymore in The Wedding Singer—she practices several different types of kisses with Robbie before her big day!

Stay True to Yourself

Keep in mind that this is the man of your dreams, not some hunky actor on screen. If you don't give long, passionate kisses in real life, you may not want to do so on your wedding day, warns Greg Jenkins, founder of Bravo Productions. "When you make drastic or severe changes at a moment's notice or catch someone by surprise, there is a greater chance that an awkward situation will be created," he notes.

Don't Surprise Each Other

If your guy plans on doing something a little extra—like a dramatic dip—during the first kiss, make sure you're both onboard and know about it beforehand, advises Blake Bush, associate wedding planner and event designer at Pure Luxe Bride. Otherwise, you might wind up on the ground!

Stop Overthinking It

Practice makes perfect but only if the final kiss looks and feels natural. "I always tell my clients to never overthink any given moment of the ceremony and to do what comes natural," says wedding planner Alicia Falango, owner of Alicia K Designs in San Francisco. "This gives them less to 'remember'. It's when they are trying to do everything correctly that they fumble and are unnatural."

Hug It Out

Speaking of keeping it natural, Crystal Lequang, owner of Amazae Special Events, suggests hugging first and then going into the kiss. "Often we get so fixated on the kissing part that we don't realize that we usually embrace before we kiss anyone."

Ask the Officiant to Step Aside

Although it probably won't be that weird having someone standing behind you while you lock lips, you might not like how the pictures turn out after the fact. Bush recommends politely asking your pastor or officiant to step aside for the pic because, let's be real, who wants an officiant photo bombing your first kiss!?

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