Listen Up, Dads! 8 Must-Know Tips for the Father of the Bride's Wedding Toast

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Updated 11/01/19

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The father of the bride's wedding toast is likely one you've been excited to give for a very long time. Now that the moment is growing closer and closer, it's important to sit down and write a speech that not only you're proud of, but that your daughter will remember for a lifetime. So, to get you started, here are eight must-know tips for writing that sure-to-be epic father of the bride speech.

1. Keep It Short

Though you've been waiting for this day to come for many years, try to keep your toast short and sweet. There may be a lot you want to say, and if that's the case, consider writing some of those heartfelt sentiments down beforehand and giving it to your daughter in a card for her to read privately on her wedding morning.

2. Don't Be Too Embarrassing

Skip the stories that may make your daughter cringe or those memories that she wishes you would just forget already. Remember, the speech is a toast and not a roast.

3. Skip Ex Mentions

If you have an urge to call out how terrible some of her ex-boyfriends or girlfriends were in the past, skip that little tidbit and keep it to yourself. There's never any good that can come from name-dropping old lovers at your daughter's wedding.

4. Don't Push for Laughs

Often times, you'll get laughs when you're not trying hard for them. Don't feel like you have to color your toast with joke line after joke line—it may come off as forced.

5. Make Eye Contact

Attempt to memorize your speech. If that's getting a little too difficult to do in such a short amount of time, be sure to practice it enough beforehand so that you can make eye contact with the couple and the other guests.

6. Include the Other Half

While you have so much to say about the bride, remember to mention and acknowledge her new spouse, too.

7. Give Thanks

Since you're the guy with the mic, don't forget to thank the guests for coming to the wedding and the parents of your daughter's new spouse for anything and everything that they did. Also give a nice little shout out to your own partner, and thank them for helping you raise such a wonderful daughter.

8. Add Some Parting Wisdom

Whether it's a piece of marriage advice or just your most heartfelt wishes for the newlywed's future together, pepper in some sage wisdom for the happy couple.

Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of "All My Friends Are Engaged" and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

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