3 Things Every Father of the Bride Should Do at His Daughter's Wedding

Put Dad to work on your big day

Updated 09/15/19

Kristyn Hogan

It's not uncommon for the father of the bride to look a little bit lost on the day of his daughter's wedding. After all, he's not in the wedding party helping the bride get ready, and he's probably not invited to participate in her partner's last hours of freedom. But that doesn't mean the FOB isn't important. There are plenty of ways dads can make a difference on their daughter's big day, starting with these three super-simple tasks.

1. Do everything the bride and your partner don't have time to do

After you make sure your wedding attire is good to go, ask your daughter and your partner how you can be of assistance. You'd be surprised how many often-overlooked details go unnoticed. Has lunch been ordered for the wedding party? Does anyone need to be picked up from the airport last minute? Have hotel accommodations for guests been squared away? Did the bride forget anything at home? Use the downtime before the ceremony to help tie up any loose ends.

2. Prepare your toast in advance

Going on the assumption that it's possible you will have a few drinks before the very special toast you're expected to give the newlyweds at the reception, it's not a bad idea to prepare your speech in advance. All eyes and ears will be on you, so you'll want to avoid delivering a rambling, disjointed speech. It's also easy to forget people to acknowledge when you're speaking off the cuff. Consider jotting down a few key points and names on a notecard—this goes for even the most esteemed public speakers. And if you have the time, practicing it out loud will really help you nail it.

3. Play host at the end of the night

As the evening winds down, make sure to thank all the guests who attended and say goodbye as they leave. Usually, the couple is still dancing the night away when the older family members start trickling out. Do them a favor by saying farewell to family and friends. This will allow them to fully enjoy their last hour of fun on the dance floor without interruption.

Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007.

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