It's not uncommon for the father of the bride to look a little bit lost on the day of his daughter's wedding. After all, he's not part of the bridal party helping the bride get ready, and he's probably not invited to participate in his future son-in-law's last hours of freedom. But that doesn't mean the FOB isn't important! There are plenty of ways dads can make a difference on their daughter's big day, starting with these three super simple tasks.
1. Do everything the bride and mother of the bride don't have time to do
After you make sure your wedding attire is good to go, ask your daughter and your wife how you can be of assistance. Beyond finalizing the wedding reception playlist and lending a hand with table and seating arrangements, you'd be surprised how many often-overlooked details go unnoticed. Has lunch been ordered for the bridal party yet? Does anyone need to be picked up from the airport last minute? Have hotel accommodations for guests been squared away? Did the bride forget anything at home? Use the downtime before the ceremony to help tie up any loose ends.
2. Prepare your toast in advance
Going on the assumption that it's possible you will have a few drinks before the very special toast you're expected to give the bride and groom at the reception, it's not a bad idea to prepare your speech in advance. All eyes and ears will be on you, so you'll want to avoid delivering a rambling, disjointed speech. It's also easy to forget people to acknowledge when you're speaking off the cuff. Consider jotting down a few key points and names on a notecard—this goes for even the most esteemed public speakers.
3. Play host at the end of the night
Even if you didn't contribute financially to the wedding itself, there's no shame in playing host at the end of the night. As the evening winds down, try to make sure to thank all the guests who attended and say goodbye when they leave. Usually, the bride and groom are still dancing the night away when the older family members start trickling out. Do the newlyweds a favor by saying their farewells for them. This will allow them to fully enjoy their last hour of fun on the dance floor without interruption.
Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007.