Should the Father of the Bride Match the Groomsmen?

Our etiquette expert has the answer.


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Your ceremony may only last 30 minutes, but wedding photos last a lifetime. So does your wedding party need to wear perfectly complementary looks to create beautiful big-day pictures? For example, what if your husband-to-be and his groomsmen are wearing matching ties, should your dad wear the same one? Should they all be decked out in matching suits or tuxes? Our etiquette experts weigh in.

Coordinating clothing and accessories for the groomsmen and bridesmaids may be an aesthetically pleasing choice for your wedding, but your father's attire falls under a separate category entirely. Your dad is performing the task of giving you away to your future spouse, so he should be allowed to accessorize as he sees fit. However, there are other ways to create a uniform appearance for pictures. You might suggest a tie in the same color family as your fiancé and his groomsmen to your father, which would appear seamless in pictures but allow your dad to express his own style.

If it is important to yourself and your partner that your father is figuratively included in the wedding party by sporting a matching tie, make the suggestion to your dad, but remember to honor his wishes if he politely declines.

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