Those moments right after you get engaged are so exciting! They’re emotional, full of laughter and smiles, and will bring you so much joy for the years to come. Why wouldn’t you want to soak it all in as long as possible? Is it possible to extend the private celebration and hold off announcing your engagement? Here’s what our experts have to say.
There’s no hard-and-fast rule stating you need to announce your engagement as soon as a ring is on your finger. In fact, we encourage you to spend a little time, just the two of you, really reveling in everything you’re feeling. That might be 20 minutes, it might be a few hours, or it might be a whole weekend.
If you do plan on holding off on announcing your engagement, consider filling in a few key people, then turning off your phones. If your fiancé asked your parents for your hand in marriage, or if his mom has been waiting with bated breath to see your engagement ring, you may want to make a quick phone call to let them know you’re engaged, and then swear them to secrecy until you’re ready to tell everyone else. You may have the best of intentions by deciding to wait to share the news, but there’s a chance someone could be offended if you reveal you’ve been engaged for days and didn’t call.
Of course, if you’re planning to tell your families in person, use that as an opportunity to extend the glow for a day or two while you make plans. Then, when you’re face-to-face, you can announce that you got engaged over the weekend without anyone wondering why you didn’t pick up the phone — getting to say it out loud and show them your ring is worth the wait!
Whether or not you announce your engagement more publicly (say, on social media or in your local newspaper) is up to you. You don’t have to post about it at all if you don’t want to. Of course the word will spread organically, so you may get congratulatory messages on your accounts, but you don’t have to change your status if that’s not your thing.