Do You Need to Bring a Gift to an Engagement Party?

To gift or not to gift? Our etiquette expert has the answer.

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Did your BFF just get engaged? It’s time to start celebrating! First up on the pre-wedding party list: the engagement party. Engagement parties vary widely from couple to couple—and some might even have a few before they walk down the aisle. Whether it's super formal or totally laid-back, the etiquette around this first bash can be a little bit fuzzy, especially when it comes to whether or not you’re supposed to bring a gift. Anything from casual drinks at a bar to a cocktail reception with waiters in white gloves goes—which can add to the confusion.

Are Engagement Party Gifts Required?

The good news is, engagement gifts are not required, no matter how fancy the celebration. Even if the pair already set up their registry, that doesn’t mean you’ve got to click “buy” before they’ve even sent out invitations. Oftentimes, close relatives and friends of the couple will show up with a gift, ranging from a book of wedding inspiration to a traditional wedding present like a pretty frame or serving platter.

Gifting Ideas

Nowadays, it's common for guests to bring a gift to an engagement party, but it's usually something small and sentimental. Don't feel pressured to give an elaborate or expensive item. If you wish to bring something, you can, but bring it to the gathering itself. At the very least, you can leave a congratulatory card for the couple, letting them know how happy you are and that you’re excited to celebrate this milestone with them.

You could send flowers or champagne to your friends as soon as you know they’re tying the knot, or opt to wrap something and bring it with you to the engagement party.

If you’re worried about showing up empty-handed, consider something budget-friendly like a bottle of wine or a pretty bouquet. And if you do decide to get a gift for the couple, there is also some flexibility when it comes to how it’s delivered. Of course, gift or no gift, make sure you congratulate your friends in person—and thank the host for having you!


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