Is It Ever Okay to Email Wedding Thank-You Notes?

Don't stiff your guests when it comes to thanking them

Updated 10/27/17

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Technology has done wonders for wedding planning, from seamless budget tracking to super-easy ways to share inspiration with your vendors. But not everything is better when technology is involved. For example, is it ever okay to send a wedding thank-you email instead of heading to the post office? Here’s what our experts have to say.

There are some wedding details that are best left “old school,” and your wedding correspondence is one of them. Just like your save-the-dates and invitations, thank you notes are an essential part of how you communicate with your guests, and handwritten notes are still the way to go—sorry, speed-texters and tech addicts! Does the thought of writing out a hundred thank-you cards by hand give you carpal tunnel? We’ve got a few tips to help you work through it.

Order Cards With Your Invitations

The quickest way to get the thank you notes done is to get a head start, and the best way to do that is to be prepared. When you’re ordering your invitation suite, add matching thank-you cards to your order (along with envelopes!) and set them aside so you’re ready as soon as gifts come in. If you’re eyeing a more personal design that features a photo of the two of you, use one from your engagement session instead of your wedding so you can get those cards ordered in advance. To save even more time when you’re writing, order envelopes that are printed with your return address, or purchase an address stamp. And don’t forget to buy a bunch of first-class stamps!

Start Writing Early

Instead of saving all of those cards for your honeymoon flight, spread the writing out to give your poor fingers a break. As soon as you get a wedding gift, write down who it is from and what you received, and immediately write a thank you card and put it in the mail. Writing a card or two at a time means you won’t have a pile to deal with after your wedding is over—and it will help you keep track of who you have and haven’t thanked. And hey, there are far better things to be doing on your honeymoon than writing thank you cards!

Follow a Formula

Don’t pressure yourselves to write a unique message for every single guest—they won’t be reading anyone’s thank-you card but their own! Instead, work with a tried and true formula to keep things moving along. Start by thanking the guest for their gift (and specifically mentioning what they gave you!). Add a line about how you plan to use it, especially if the gift was money instead of an item. Conclude by either expressing how excited you are to celebrate with them (if your wedding hasn’t happened yet) or by thanking them for coming to your wedding and mentioning a fun moment you got to share with them.

Divide and Conquer

Even if your partner has horrible handwriting, the burden shouldn’t fall entirely on you. You should each write thank-you notes to your own relatives and close friends, and any mutual friends should be divided between the two of you so both of your hands get a workout.

Address Clearly

After all that hard work, it’s important to make sure the cards get where they’re going! Consider addressing the envelopes in all caps to make sure the name and address are extra clear. If your handwriting is really that bad, buy clear sticker labels and print out each address—the only part that you can definitely do digitally with no complaints.

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