Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007. Here, she discusses the importance of planning ahead when it comes to your wedding vows.
Technically speaking, your wedding vows are the most important part of the entire wedding. That's why you're there — to promise to love and cherish in sickness and in health, and to commit to whatever else is important to you both.
And this is why it's so perplexing that writing the wedding ceremony plan, including the vows, is easily the number one most-procrastinated-on wedding homework assignment for almost every single bride and groom. The bigger problem is that the task is unavoidable. Bad things happen to wedding couples who procrastinate on finishing their wedding ceremony plans. Here's proof:
In one case, the groom never wrote his vows despite constant poking and prodding. So on the wedding day, when ceremony time came, the bride and I slid in the Dr. Seuss wedding vows for the groom without telling him. For this particular couple, it worked well and the guests thought it was hilarious, but most brides and grooms take vows more seriously.
On my TLC television show "Wedding Island," a bride named Jessica was featured trying to Google her "vowels" about 20 minutes prior to the time she was supposed to be walking down the aisle. Literally. And she really did call them her "vowels," repeatedly. After handing me the completed script for the minister 20 minutes after she was supposed to have been escorted down the aisle, the groom looked at me and asked if the minister could spontaneously translate it all into Spanish and perform a bilingual ceremony.
Write your wedding vows in the first few months of planning if that is your responsibility. The things you plan to promise to each other on your wedding day shouldn't change during your engagement. Unlike final head counts, dinner orders and other things that have to wait til the last minute, your wedding vows are something you can control.