When you’re deciding on the timeline for all of your pre-wedding milestones, from when to have your engagement party to what weekends work for all of your besties for the bachelorette, one of the many to-do's on your wedding planning agenda is deciding whether or not to send a save-the-date announcement to your guests, which essentially alerts them that they are going to be invited to your wedding in the coming months, along with sharing basic date and location information, so that they can save the date (quite literally) in their calendars.
Usually, couples send out save the dates a few months after they've gotten engaged and have decided on a wedding venue and ceremony date. But they're hardly mandatory, and for some couples, they might not even be necessary. So, should the two of you spend the time (and money) to send save the dates at all? Here's a breakdown of some of the pros and cons.
You Give Your Guests a Heads Up
Let's face it: Calendars can fill up fast. One of the benefits of sending save-the-dates is that they alert guests of your official wedding date and location, which is ultra helpful when travel is involved. That way, they can jump on booking airfare and accommodations for the weekend—or at the very least, set up travel alerts to snag future sale fares to attend your wedding, if they live far away, or you're planning a destination wedding. Even if they live nearby, they can still mark it on the calendar and will be thankful that you gave them a head's up.
They Can Say "No" to Other Commitments
Having your wedding day marked on their future calendars will give your nearest and dearest a chance to make plans around your wedding weekend and ensure they don't accidentally double-book. Plenty of personal and professional events and travel plans are confirmed months in advance—including work trips and conferences and annual family vacations, to name a few. The greater notice you give your guests, they greater likelihood they'll be available to attend.
They'll Know for Sure That They Are Invited
You may assume your friends and family know for certain that they're going to be invited to your nuptials, but just because they're close to you doesn’t mean that they're automatically expecting to receive an invitation. Wedding guest lists are tricky things and it can sometimes feel like a bit of a guessing game; a save-the-date confirms for your many circles of friends and immediate and extended family that they are indeed on the guest list and can start planning accordingly.
They Take Time—and Money
Creating and sending save-the-dates is another expense that you’ll have to build into your wedding budget. (Depending on how many you plan to send and how elaborate they are, they could cost several hundred dollars.) Plus, designing, printing, and actually mailing your save-the-dates takes time and effort—including the tedious task of collecting everyone's mailing addresses, although that list sure does come in handy come wedding invitation time! Even if you opt to send digital save-the-dates to save funds, you'll still need to collect everyone's email addresses (and it's possible that all-important email might get missed).
You’ll Need to Finalize Your Guest List ASAP
If the two of you opt to send save-the-dates, you'll need to make some decisions about who you're inviting to your wedding pretty shortly after locking in your wedding and reception venue(s), which, together with your budget and personal preferences, dictates the maximum number of guests you can have in attendance. Keep in mind that once someone receives their save-the-date, they will assume they're invited to your wedding; you can’t not send them an official wedding invitation later! So choose wisely and thoughtfully to avoid any guest list drama down the line.