Do You Put 'and Guest' on Your Save-the-Dates?

Handing out plus-ones on your save-the-date can be a dangerously premature move

Updated 05/04/18

Erika Parker

Once you sit down to address your save-the-dates, there's one very important detail you may be wondering about: Do you put "and guest" on your save-the-dates? Save-the-dates are ideally sent out six to eight months before the wedding, and at that point, you might not have even hammered out your head count. For that reason, handing out plus-ones on your save-the-date can be a premature move. Sometimes, however, it makes sense to include a plus-one on your save-the-date.

When to Include a Plus-One on the Save-the-Date

• Anyone who is married or in a serious relationship should be given a plus-one right from the start, no questions asked.
• It's polite to give members of the bridal party a plus-one regardless of their relationship status, so they, too, should be given a plus-one immediately.
• If you've already squared away your wedding budget and venue, and therefore already have a very good grasp on the space and funds you have to accommodate plus-ones, you're in a position (even at this early juncture) to give them out accordingly.

If you choose to include a plus-one, opt to actually name the person rather than just adding "and guest." If you use "and guest," that leaves the plus-one open to anyone the guest chooses. It's more personal (and saves you some potential surprises!) to specify who the plus-one actually is.

When. Not. to Include a Plus-One on the Save-the-Date

• At this point, consider not offering plus-ones for guests who are casually dating or single.
• You've chosen a date, but not a venue—and therefore have no idea how many people you can fully accommodate.
• You've chosen a date and venue, but your budget isn't finalized—meaning you need to see how many plus-ones you can afford.

When you're ready to send your actual wedding invitations out (approximately eight weeks before the wedding), you can add plus-ones as you see fit. For example, at that point you may have found out that several people you invited are unable to make it, freeing up seats for plus-ones. On the other hand, your guest list might have multiplied since you began, and you'll have even less room for plus-ones. That's why it's helpful to wait—because once you do offer a plus-one, you can't take it back.

We've cleared up the matter of "do you put plus ones on save-the-dates"—but you might have more questions about save-the-dates. Discover everything you need to know about these cards in our ultimate guide When to Send Save-the-Dates: Every Question Answered. You can also get inspired with 30 Creative Wedding Save the Date Ideas!

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