Figuring out who's on your guest list and who gets a plus one is hard enough. What makes it even harder? When that couple you invited breaks up. Why? Because now you've got to do that one thing all the guest list preparation was supposed to avoid, something that's usually a major etiquette no-no: Uninvite someone. Our experts have a few tips for navigating this sticky situation.
It's hard enough to have a friend who is going through a tough break-up, and it's even more difficult when that break-up happens when you've invited her former significant other to your wedding. Whether she's ended a long-term relationship or her summer fling didn't play out the way she'd hoped, if you weren't particularly close with your friend's ex, you can definitely politely ask him not to attend. Grab his number off her phone before she deletes it, and call to let him know that, out of respect for your friend, you'd prefer if he didn't attend your wedding. Chances are he'd already canceled his plans, but it's better to be safe than sorry.
If you were close with both halves of the break-up (maybe you introduced one of your girls to your fiancé's college roommate), you might still want them both to attend the wedding, so do everything you can to downplay the drama. Recruit a mutual friend or two to try to keep them apart, rearrange the seating chart so they're on opposite sides of the room, and, if they were both in the wedding party, pair them up with different bridesmaids or groomsmen so they don't have to walk down the aisle together. Worried that one (or both) of them might bring their drama to your wedding day? Have a talk beforehand and let them know that, while you're so sorry they had to call it quits, you'd hope that they'll be able to let bygones be bygones for one night. We're all adults here, right?