If you’re a bride-to-be that has opted for a surprise bridal shower and now find yourself questioning if that was a good idea — relax. We’ve got you covered. Here are the six things you should tell your girls before your bridal shower so all that’s left to do is show up, have fun and be surrounded by love.
Your Guest List
Obviously your girls are going to need some guidance here, and it’s perhaps the one thing in your control, too. Compile an organized, clear and shareable list of everyone who should receive an invitation to your celebration, including mailing addresses. Providing relationships like coworker, childhood friend, fiancé’s cousin, etc.. will also help point the hosts in the right direction when it comes to seating charts. Doing this will not only cross one big task off their to-do lists, but will also ensure everyone you want to be there will actually be there!
Your Registry Information
This is a must, and super easy. Be sure to communicate with your girls exactly where you have registered so they can pass along the information to guests. Double-check all information and registrant spelling too as guests will need this information to access your registry.
If you have another social engagement, work obligations or other dates that aren’t ideal for your bridal shower, you should communicate these as soon as possible. Nothing would be worse than having a scheduling conflict arise late in the game, especially when it could have been prevented.
Your Must Haves
If you’ve been dreaming of a tea party themed shower or a certain cake, color scheme or venue, it’s okay to drop some hints. Chances are, you’ll be asked anyway. Just keep in mind with a surprise bridal shower you render much of the control of the situation. Preferences are of course expected, but demands are not.
What You Definitely Don’t Want
Don’t want to open your gifts in front of everyone? Do you want to encourage guests to go green by not wrapping gifts? Cringe at the thought of shower games, or worse — opening lingerie in front of your conservative grandma? It’s time to speak up. It's 100% okay to let your bridal party know what you definitely don’t want at your shower. Just be sure to word it as requests, not mandates.
How Much You Appreciate Them
Well, this is a given — but sometimes you may forget to both verbalize and show your thanks for your bridal party. As you are well aware, planning a social event is a lot of hard work and stress. Your bridal party is throwing you a surprise shower out of love and friendship so just be sure to remind them along the way how much this means to you.