Nightmare Scenario: Dealing with a Drunk Wedding Guest

Updated 06/22/15

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An open bar can be both delicious and disastrous, leading to tipsy twirling across the dance floor and less favorable behavior, such as a guest getting down in totally inappropriate and embarrassing ways.

"People drink at weddings because there is free-flowing booze, and to temper some social anxieties," explains Melissa McNeely, owner of Events by Melissa McNeely. "That, or they don't drink on a regular basis, so they're light-weights who get drunk easily!"

If a guest takes your open bar too far, your first step is to defer to your planner. "It's their job," explains McNeely, "and they can have a discreet conversation with the bartender."

Brides who went sans planner can ask a friend or family member to chat with the bartender in their stead. "Just let them know which particular guest is getting sloppy so they can either not serve them or make their drinks weak," McNeely says. "And if they are over-the-top drunk, the bartender is in his right to cut the guest off completely in a polite way."

Once they're away from the bar, it's smart to make sure the guest has a safe way home. Ask someone who knows the guest to call him or her a cab, McNeely says.

Finally, if you know one of your guests is prone to over-indulge, it's a good idea to give your planner or bartender a heads-up pre-party. Oh, and keep them away from the microphone and the DJ! "There is nothing more annoying than a guest a wedding telling the DJ to play what they want to hear when the bride and groom have carefully selected the kind of music that they want at their wedding!" says McNeely.

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