Dancing With the Stars's Witney Carson's romance with high school sweetheart Carson McAllister has been storybook from the start. The dance pro—who won the Mirrorball in Season 19 alongside partner Alfonso Ribeiro—got engaged on a California beach in October 2015. The couple tied the knot just three months later in a lavish ceremony on New Year's Day, 2016, in Salt Lake City. Here, the newlywed shares several never-before-seen photos from her magical winter wedding, as well as the important lessons she's learned during her first year of marriage.
Communicate your feelings
I was never great at doing this; I’m generally private and closed off when talking about my feelings. It was new for me to discuss how I’m feeling, but I’ve found that this is so important to a healthy relationship, so I’m working on it!
Always be honest and truthful with your spouse
In any trial, happy or sad, you learn that you can overcome anything together!
Talk about goals with each other
Know what your spouse’s goals are in life. That way, you can encourage each other to accomplish those dreams!
Whenever you fight—which you will, LOL—always be a good listener, and always be the first one to apologize. I’m super stubborn, so saying I'm sorry is not my strong suit, but I’ve learned some fights just aren’t worth it. Learning to swallow your pride, saying how you feel, listening, and forgiving is always the answer.
Do something once a day to make your spouse happy
It can be the simplest thing, just to let them know you love them and think of them, which can make all the difference.
Learn how you each communicate
My "love language" is quality time and physical touch; this is important for your spouse to know so that you can make an effort to do things that they would appreciate and love.
Do something fun at least once a week
Carson and I are always so busy, but we still make time for each other—it's a “check-in," I guess you could say—to relax and have that special quality time with your other half.
Put your spouse first in every situation
Selfless love is the truest form of love.
Tell them you love them every day
For my husband and me, we feel it's important to have a foundation to our relationship. That for us is our religion. We make goals—physical, spiritual, and mental—to help us become better people. Our religion is what keeps us grounded, and having something you both feel passionate about, whether it be just a goal or standard to uphold, is so important!