Counting On 's Jessa Duggar Shares Her Best Advice for a Happy Marriage

It's not bad, TBH

Updated 07/31/18

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Jessa Duggar may only be 25, but she apparently already knows what it takes to make a marriage work. The Counting On star and mom of two opened up to Us Weekly about her marriage with husband Ben Seewald and how she and her husband make their marriage a success.

“Never stop showing gratitude to your spouse for all the things they do to help out,” the 25-year-old said in the interview. “It doesn’t matter how big or small. Sometimes couples come to expect things of each other and they stop noticing and appreciating things the other one does to help out with the kids or keep the household running smoothly.”

Duggar and Seewald, who share sons Spurgeon, 2, and 17-month-old Henry, say that they always are grateful for each other's assistance with any parenting responsibilities. “If your spouse volunteered to change nastiest, stinky diaper or you saw them jump up quickly to clean up a spill, make it a habit to express gratefulness and say, ‘Thank you for doing that.’”

She added that even though the two are busy with their kids, they always try to make time for a date night. “Having alone time when you have two young kids doesn’t just happen,” Jessa said. “We have to be purposeful.” She told the publication that sometimes their version of a date night involves putting the kids to bed early so that the two can enjoy their takeout alone.

“It’s great because our conversations can go long and you’re not on a time-clock with a babysitter or wondering if the baby’s bedtime routine went smoothly,” she explains. “It’s a good fit for us at this time in our lives.”

Reality stars, who have been married for three years, say that as much as they love their family time, they both need some time on their own—especially Jessa.

“Ben is great with the boys and is so sweet to insist on me taking a break from mom duties so I can have quiet time to read, or meet up with a girlfriend or grab a coffee,” she gushes. “I do love these moments of down time and refreshment, but it usually isn’t long before I feel myself missing my babies and longing to be back with them.”

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