Think of all the things you want from your relationship: lazy cuddling on Sunday mornings? Movie nights every Saturday? A listening ear after a hard day at work? Well, some couples take their wish-list to the next level and actually create a contract!
Tina Sugandh and Tarz Ludwigsen (who starred on the Bravo reality show Newlyweds: The First Year) recently were interviewed by HuffPost Live, where they talked about how they actually created a legal document that set ground rules for their relationship. But before you think they sound rigid and rule-oriented, it was all done with good intentions. For example, Article 4.4 of their contract stipulates that Fridays are, well, officially designated as "Pizza Fridays."
The couple has both signed on the dotted line to confirm that each Friday night they will have a "pizza picnic" together. In fact, both parties "agree to keep this time free from all phone calls and other interruptions. No friends or business colleagues will be invited to Pizza Fridays."
"It's very very easy to say, 'Oh, I want to hang out with my sister. She's having a thing on Friday night.' Or 'My dad's going to pop by on Friday night,'" Sugandh said in an interview. "But if you don't save one little time slot a week for your husband, how do you bond? You need time to talk about your week and get it all out."
While this may sound like an unusual idea, we think it's cute—and worth doing if it makes each of you invest more intention in your relationship. (And if the legal nature of a contract like this stresses you out, just write something on notebook paper and hang it on the fridge! No need for lawyers.)
Some things we'd consider putting in a so-called relationship contract:
*We agree to give and receive back rubs, often.
*We hereby consent to one weekend a year (okay, two) to spend with our girlfriends/guy friends.
*We will split custody of the remote control, as well as the most comfy seat on the couch.
*We will try something new, together, every month.
What would you put in a relationship contract?