No matter how much you already get along with your future mother-in-law, before you find yourself decked out in the wedding dress of your dreams, about to marry the love of your life, there’s one more task to cross off your to-do list. Now that you're joining the family, it’s important to sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation with the mom of your beloved. This conversation will be a crucial opportunity for making sure you have all your bases covered and expectations set before you tie the knot.
But what topics should this crucial conversation cover? What are the must-ask questions? We’ve got you covered as you prep. Read on for the six convos to have with your future mother-in-law before you walk down that aisle.
What's One Thing I Should Know?
Kick things off by having a conversation with your future mother-in-law about anything you should know about her son or daughter that you may not know already. She may be able to tell you some funny stories from childhood that you've never heard before, and those are generally the hilarious tales that you'll never let your soon-to-be spouse forget.
If you haven't already, ask your future mother-in-law to show you some of the family photo albums. Flipping through pages of memories is a great way to get to know the family better. Plus, it will serve as a jumping-off point for so many other stories about your soon-to-be spouse.
How Do I Deal With Them When Hangry?
You may not have experienced your significant other being truly hangry just yet, but mom probably has. Everyone could use a little info booster on how to pick someone out of a hangry mood. Salty or sweet, what snack will do the trick?
You Know I'm Not Pushing You Out of Their Life
Make it clear to her that while you're going to be the person who spends the most time with her child, they'll always be her No. 1—you're not pushing her out of their life. This will provide her with a huge hug of comfort.
You Can Be In Charge of Certain Holidays
Holidays can be a point of contention, especially as a couple is bringing two families together. If there are some traditional holidays that your future MIL likes to host, let her know you'd still like to do them at her house. Then, you and your spouse can pick up any holidays that she doesn't feel strongly about.
We'll Talk Kids When We're Ready
While it may be uncomfortable, this is an important ground rule to set. Since there's a ring on your finger, your future mother-in-law may already be riding the kid train. Let her know that you'll open up the gates for baby talk when you and your partner are ready.
You'll Always Be Mom
Say it again and again: She'll always be your partner's mom, and there are certain things and roles that only a mother can do and fill. You're not trying to replace her in any way.