Chris Hemsworth Says He and Wife Elsa Pataky "Didn't Really See Each Other" After Having Kids

"Most of the time, you're just too tired."

Updated 10/04/17

Steve Granitz

It can be hard enough to balance work and married life, but when you add kids to the mix, it's practically impossible to devote as much attention as you'd like to all three. Chris Hemsworth knows this struggle all too well, as he revealed in his cover story for the November 2017 issue of GQ Australia.

"My wife and I fell in love, had kids, didn't really see each other for a few years, then fell back in love," Hemsworth, father of five-year-old daughter India Rose and three-year-old twin sons Sasha and Tristan, said. "Once you have children, every instinct and every moment of your time is consumed by that. You've got nothing for each other—so make sure you have date night even if it's once in a blue moon, because most of the time, you're just too tired and you'd actually prefer to sleep."

The Thor actor also opened up about how he and Elsa Pataky, whom he married in December 2010, have learned to juggle their marriage, kids, and work in different ways. "In terms of work, she's certainly given up more than I have. She'd like me to step back and be at home with the kids more, and of course, I want that too. But I feel like I'm at this crucial point in my career. I've just got to set up for longevity or I'll slip off," he said, adding that, in the meantime, he could definitely step up his romance game. "I don't write [love letters], but maybe I should. There's no shortage of how much I tell her I love her. But I guess there's no detail in it, why or how."

The 34-year-old continued, "My mum tells this story about when she was younger and had been married to my dad for years. He'd write her an articulate and detailed letter and she said, 'I remember thinking, Oh, wow he loves me, which is so stupid, because I knew he loved me.' But when it was said with that much depth, it struck a different chord."

Love letters or not, Hemsworth and Pataky have figured out a work-life balance that suits them. In a 2015 interview with The Who magazine, Hemsworth confirmed that the pair are in it for the long haul. "Watching her be a mother made me fall even more in love with her. Once we had kids we were like, 'We're in it, this is it,'" he said. "All of a sudden, I had a greater appreciation for my wife. She kind of came into her own when we had kids. She certainly keeps me sane. I complain about things, she gets on with it."

And last year, when tabloids published rumors of Hemsworth and Pataky's supposedly imminent breakup, the happy couple shut them down with a pair of sweet Instagram posts. "Looking for a new wife according to @womansdayaus and other misleading outlets! Honey you still love me right?! @elsapatakyconfidential #thanksfortheheadsup," Hemsworth captioned a photo of himself and his wife on a boat. Pataky followed up her husband's cheeky post with another picture of them cuddling up at home, writing, "Ahora y siempre! Always and forever!!"

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