There are a million different ways to experience sexual pleasure, and most of them (if not all) will tout the clitoris as the mac daddy of female sexual pleasure. Those sources are correct! When it comes to orgasm, the clitoris reigns supreme. We cannot stress enough how important the clitoris is to your orgasm.
Of course, that doesn’t mean the clitoris is the ONLY thing that brings sexual pleasure to a woman’s body. You are a beautiful landscape of infinite sexual possibilities. You shouldn’t limit yourself in any way.
So many kinds of orgasms, right? There are lots of articles out there on how to have a “nipple orgasm” or “mental orgasm.” So, what does that even mean? And is it even possible?
Orgasms are not black and white. They’re Technicolor. Let’s see what this is all about, shall we?
Look for alternative erogenous zones
There are many erogenous zones that link into the clitoral complex, but touching these areas means the contact with the nerve endings is indirect. For example, many women have reported having orgasms through their nipples alone. Your breasts swell during sex and your nipples become highly sensitive. For most, nipple stimulation adds to the buildup of orgasm while simultaneously receiving clitoral stimulation.
When you’re aroused, your entire body perks up, some areas become more sensitive than others. While most women do require direct (or indirect) clitoral stimulation to experience orgasm, it is possible to get there by stimulating alternative erogenous zones alone.
Explore your body and see which areas experience pleasure during sensual activities. Perhaps your inner thighs are a hot spot, maybe it’s your lower belly or neck.
Everyone is different and no body will respond in exactly the same way. You may not get to orgasm through this experiment, but you’ll certainly up the ante on foreplay and be extra ready for other fun sexual activities.
Be in the right headspace
There have been several reports of “mental orgasms.” It certainly seems possible. The mind is the most powerful sex organ we possess. Getting into the right mental state is a big portion of the battle when it comes to experiencing orgasm in general, let alone without genital contact.
How you get into the right mind-set is going to depend on what turns you on. You can try different things to get a sense of what helps fantasy engulf you. Perhaps you enjoy watching porn, imagining yourself in those scenarios. You can have your partner talk dirty to you while they’re exploring your body.
For some, meditation is key to having a mental orgasm. It’s about being completely connected to what you’re feeling and being sexually “one” with your mind, body, and spirit.
Have your partner pleasure everywhere else
If you want to expound on your pleasure possibilities and attempt a clit-less orgasm, throw yourself into it. It can be a very fun way to expand your sexual repertoire with your partner. If you can handle it, wear a blindfold. If you can’t see, your other senses will be heightened.
Have your partner pleasure other areas of your body. You can start with a simple foot or hand massage and work your way around from there. Have him or her lick and suck your nipples. They can nibble your inner thighs. Do both at the same time!
Communicate about what feels good. Make some noise. You want to focus and be aware of what feels particularly hot for you. Again, you may not orgasm, but edging yourself closer to climax without the clitoris can make later clitoral contact truly explosive.
Don’t forget to breathe
Don’t forget to breathe deeply into your body during this entire experience. Draw in deep breaths and exhale slowly. When something feels really good, or strange, or overwhelming, the instinct can be to hold your breath.
If you want to experience orgasmic release in its full form, breathe. It helps you connect all of that mind/body goodness we talked about above. Your breath elevates those peaked nerve endings and gives you the extra push you might need to have one of those full body orgasms you’ve been dreaming about.
Don’t get stressed out about it
Most importantly of all, don’t stress yourself out if you can’t have a mental, nipple etc. orgasm. These are pretty rare. Over seventy percent of women need their clitoris touched during sexual activity to experience orgasm.
It doesn’t make your body less awesome and it certainly doesn’t make you broken. It’s just another fun thing to try. Should you not come, you’re still improving your sex life by exploring multiple erotic pleasure zones and allowing yourself a space to connect with your body on a deeper level.
Is having an orgasm without touching your clitoris possible? Yes, but it isn’t some magical thing only unicorn-women experience. All bodies are different. That’s just the way it is.