Can We Have Our Wedding on a Holiday?

Ben Q. Photography

Perhaps you weren't able to book your dream venue earlier in the summer or maybe you're set on nautical-themed Montauk nuptials—hence, a Labor Day weekend wedding. What could possibly go wrong? You've got the beach, a sea breeze, and an extra day off to fully soak in the newlywed bliss with your loved ones.

On the one hand, holiday weddings can be a total blast. Whether you decide to tie the knot at the beach, the countryside, or a metropolitan area, attendees surely won't run out of things to do over the extended weekend. Unfortunately, you can't please everyone. While some guests will jump at the opportunity to celebrate with you over a long weekend, others... not so much. For many, the thought of traveling over a holiday weekend—and having to spend time apart from their family—just isn't ideal. So is that a seal of approval, or should you go back to the drawing board?

When choosing a date for your wedding, it can be tempting to pick a long weekend where you have Monday off. It seems like a no-brainer, giving you more time to spend with family and friends without using up every last vacation day. Some holiday weekends (we're looking at you, Memorial Day and Labor Day) are hugely popular as wedding dates. And why not? The weather's pretty great, and having Monday off means you can invite guests to join you for a few extra days of fun without having to take time off from work. But, of course, they're also popular travel and vacation weekends, meaning your wedding might prevent them from heading to the beach with their families or taking a trip home to visit Mom and Dad.

If you do decide to have your wedding on a holiday, it all comes down to the holiday you choose. Steer clear of religious holidays if you can—especially if your guests will most likely be acknowledging the holiday with their families. You should also avoid holidays like Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve. Not only will people probably have other plans (that are long-standing traditions), travel and hotels can be incredibly expensive during these times, turning your wedding into a huge expense for guests. Try to put yourself in the shoes of your potential guests. Would you want to travel out of town over Thanksgiving? New Years? Likely, the answer is no, and so will be the answer of your invitees.

You should also be prepared to have a lower acceptance rate, no matter the weekend. Whether it's a trip that was planned a year in advance or an annual family reunion, there's a chance some guests may already have plans, so proceed with caution (no bruised egos here). Live streaming your wedding for those who aren't able to make it is always an option, too. Ultimately, it's up to you and your partner to make the decision that's most sound for you and all parties involved.

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