It's hard to resist the appeal of a good monogram. Those swirling letters would look gorgeous on anything from your wedding invitations to that new tote you've been eyeing — and of course, now that you're engaged, it's time to stock up on monogrammed items featuring your married name! But should you use your new monogram before you're actually married? Here's what our experts think.
Etiquette states that you should save your new monogram (featuring your married last name) until after you are married. That means that the robe you'll wear while you get ready should have your maiden name in the monogram, while the beach bag you're buying for your honeymoon can have your new monogram on it, instead.
Hoping to use a monogram on your invitations? Consider a monogram that includes an ornate ampersand between your first initials, instead of your fiancés last initial. Use this on the invitations, your wedding website, and the ceremony programs. You could also have a second, coordinating monogram featuring your married name that is debuted after the ceremony. Use it on anything from menus and cocktail napkins to your wedding cake and thank you cards. Have them created by the same designer so that they fit together seamlessly.
The one exception to saving your married monogram until after you've signed the marriage license is for anything monogrammed that you'll be registering for. Specify your married monogram (both of your first initials, plus the first letter of your new last name) so that any of those personalized items feature the monogram you'll have (and share!) for the rest of your lives.
Not the traditional type? Then don't worry about it! If your last name is Brown and his is Smith, there's nothing wrong with wearing a "Mrs. Smith" robe on your wedding morning, and the same goes for your monogram. Having your new monogram on your invitations (instead of your first initials with an ampersand) might not be the norm, but you're making a huge commitment to one another, so why not start now?