Most women couldn't fathom sharing their wedding day with another bride. After all, a woman's big day is often referred to as "the most special day of her life." But apparently sometimes two are better than one — even when it comes to weddings. Here, three women open up about why they decided to throw a double wedding. (No Bride Wars-esque drama involved!)
The Twin Brides
Gail had been engaged for two years when her twin sister announced her big news. "My now brother-in-law wanted to be married like yesterday and my dad said he needed to rest his head and wallet as our venue was booked and I had my gown picked out," Gail says. The upshot: a double wedding. Gail says, "My twin and I are very close so it was perfect!" (The couples did honeymoon separately.) Now, each pair has two children, live six miles apart and celebrate their June 20th anniversary together every year.
The Bride Whose Mom Did More than Walk Her Down the Aisle
Sara's mother Angie, a longtime widow, announced her engagement soon after Sara got engaged to her live-in boyfriend of five years. The men in both of their lives popped the question: "What about a double ceremony?" Sara says, "I teared up at this idea." Since the elder couple had both been married, they left the planning to Sara and her fiancé. The brides wore different dresses but shared bridesmaids and flower girls — the latter included Angie's granddaughters. The only person to enjoy the day more than the brides?
Angie's father. Sara says, "It was such a proud day for him to see his daughter and granddaughter get married."
The BFF Brides
Sheila and Ann grew up together, sharing all life's milestones — from Barbie dolls to prom and attending the same college where each met their now-husbands. "Both of us decided to get married around the same time. Since neither of us had much money, it made sense to pool resources and throw one lavish wedding versus two bare bones ones," Sheila says. By joining forces (and wallets) each couple essentially cut their bills in half. Luckily they have similar tastes in music, flowers (lots of orchards) and menu choices.
The two couples toasted one another and shared their first dance.
"It felt like double happiness. Having someone I consider my sister participate in my joy and getting to be a part of hers was an experience I will treasure forever!" Sheila admits.
Sherry Amatenstein is a New York City-based marriage therapist and author.