As you're going through the motions of planning your wedding and working closely with your trusted group of gal pal bridesmaids through it all, you may pause for a moment and wonder if it's okay if you can ask them to give up the task of planning your bachelorette party, so you can do it yourself.
As a bride-to-be, you'll already find that you have more on your plate than any average person should have at once, which may be why you find yourself having an occasional mid-day panic attack or after work cry session because you feel overwhelmed with everything you have going on. But even then, you may be eager to take on the role of planning your own bachelorette party. Whether that's because you're scared your bridesmaids are going to throw you a rager that your body is just not in the mood to deal with or a weekend party that will drain their savings accounts and more, it is important to know that if you want to plan your own bachelorette party... you absolutely can.
First things first, pinpoint why you want to take this task away from them. If it's because you don't think they have the time or the money to help out, then let them know that you'd like to plan a simple day or night out that won't break their budget or their to-do list. They may be relieved to know you're heading in this direction and will feel even more relaxed to be there to support you.
If you want to plan your own bachelorette party because you have nightmares about the secret strippers they will hire or the amount of tequila shots they will force you to take at 11 a.m. on a Sunday, it's important to have a conversation with them first. Planning a bachelorette party is something your bridesmaids are most likely excited to do and surprise you with. If you can sort out what they thinking about planning and give them hints as to what kind of activities or places you absolutely can't stomach, you can go ahead and let them keep on planning, as long as they pinky-promise to make those much needed adjustments.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.