Ugh, the dreaded wedding guest list. Whether you're arguing with your hubby-to-be over whether his childhood friend who he hasn't talked to in 10 years really needs to come to the wedding or your budget doesn't allow inviting everyone you'd like to, creating the guest list can seem like more of a punishment than an exciting activity to mark off your wedding planning checklist. One bride found this out the hard way when she decided to invite ALL of her coworkers, as she thought the gesture would quiet any feeling of being left out around the office.
But when it came to plus-ones, the bride couldn't afford to have every single coworker bring a date to her nuptials, which is where things began to go downhill. One particularly immature coworker, who she calls "Justin," "has been up in arms that he doesn't get a plus-one. My good friend approached me to let me know that he's been telling many people that he is bringing a date regardless and I'll 'have to deal with it,'" the bride wrote on a Reddit thread.
Searching for some advice after said Justin called her no plus-one rule "offensively tacky," the bride took to the community messaging board Reddit to see what she should do about the guest who is determined to ruin her big day. The top comment on the thread? "Uninvite that tool" along with another user suggesting installing security at the door to make sure he's turned away. Another user took a more classy approach saying, "Let him show up and be a jerk. It will reflect badly on him."
And according to the founder and CEO of the wedding planning site and app Lover.ly, the latter approach may just be her best bet. In a Yahoo Style article, the expert said, "Don't feel obligated to invite everyone you see commiserating around the office Keurig in the morning." What she does suggest is inviting your immediate supervisor, the department head (if you're on friendly terms), and your assistant (if you have one), in addition to any genuinely close work friends.
Although the bride thought that inviting everyone and excluding the plus-ones was the way to success, Khalil suggests the opposite to be true. "I would say that inviting fewer people [and giving them a plus-one] would always have the happier outcome...It is a 'get out of jail free' pass to tell [those who weren't invited] that you are having a small, intimate occasion."
As for uninviting the rude coworker, Khalil deems it a major no-no. "Uninviting someone is just not an option. Unless he or she has done something terribly wrong — e.g., cheated with your soon-to-be hubby or wife — there is no reason to uninvite someone."
Looks like this unlucky bride is going to have to suck it up and take the high road on this one. At least now we can learn from her mistake!