On a bride’s big day, all eyes are on her—er, at least, that’s the idea. But one bride-to-be is worried that might not be the case at her upcoming wedding, all thanks to her future mother-in-law’s outfit choice.
In a now-deleted thread on Mumsnet—a popular U.K. advice site for parents—. “PinkSlide1” vented about the off-white ensemble her fiancé’s mother had chosen for her upcoming ceremony.
“(My fiancé and I) are getting married soon (...) and my soon to be mother-in-law is wearing a cream top and jacket and a pale grey skirt!” she shared according to Fox News.
What’s more, the bride says her soon-to-be-in-law plans to dress the look up with a few bridal-worthy accessories. “Went ‘round yesterday and she shows me these white bridal shoes and white satin bag! Am I being unreasonable for being slightly miffed at this?” she asked.
According to the bride, her mother-in-law may be walking a fine line at the old “Never wear white to a wedding” adage out of spite. “We had a very recent fall out so she may have done it on purpose to annoy me!” she wrote. “She’s just done a few things that have annoyed me about the wedding so far so this is just one of the few things that I've had to bite my tongue about.”
The internet was divided on the situation.
Wrote one forum member, “It's rude. Everyone knows it's an absolute no-no to do this, which is why, if she goes ahead, it will be no reflection on you as the only person she's likely to show up well and truly is herself.” They added, “Why must (mothers-in-law) insist on doing this? Are they determined to turn themselves into laughing stocks?”
Another commenter who experienced a similar situation when her own mother-in-law wore cream to her wedding as a snub, pointed out that it probably wouldn’t matter at the end of the day. “I can honestly say I didn't even notice on the day," she assured. "My wedding was perfect, and it was only after a few people mentioned her outfit to me and I looked at photos. She didn't upstage me or anything like that, in fact, she just looked a bit sad.”
Added another still: “It wouldn’t bother me. Unless she’s wearing a full-length cream dress and veil, nobody is going to mistake her for the bride. Grey skirt and cream jacket sounds fine.”
While the hue is controversial things could be worse: Another mom was wedding-shamed in May for showing up to her son’s nuptials in a form-fitting plunging V-neck bridal gown that left little distinction between her and the bride.
Opined one commenter at the time: If you’re a guest at someone’s wedding and you wear anything that resembles a wedding gown, you’re an a**hole.”