Whatever your opinions may be about the idea of "shedding for the wedding," there's one thing everyone can agree on: It's nobody's business but your own. One personal trainer seemed to have missed the memo, though, when he reached out to bride-to-be Cassie Young on Facebook and tried to body shame her into losing weight for her big day. Her response, Mashable reports, was legendary.
The trainer messaged Young under the guise of a "congratulations" note, but things quickly took a turn when he tried to convince her to hire him to help her "get in shape." She politely responded by saying, "I am in shape! Thank you so much for the offer, though," but still, the trainer took the opportunity to provide some seriously out of line commentary. "I know you want to look your best on your wedding day," he wrote. "If you don't hire me hire someone. Those pictures last centuries. Your children's children's children will still have those pictures. You want your best you."
Instead of hitting back with the "F off" or "Who asked you?" that this person deserved, Young took the time to eloquently explain why she wasn't going to let his comments get her down. "I know I'll look my best because I'll be so happy I get to marry the man I love," she wrote. "It's taken me a long time to love my body. I'm constantly shamed or reminded that I'm heavy and I should be embarrassed... Health is one thing, and it's something I'm working hardcore on. But the idea of me being embarrassed by my wedding pictures because I might be fat in them and people centuries from now will be ridiculing me? That's the insinuation and I say Fuck that noise!"
"I've worked really hard at accepting my self-worth and disassociating the idea that my weight is a direct correlation to my value as a person or how much people like me," she continued. "And I found someone who loves me no holds barred - just the way I am, thus proving that to be true."
But even after her "You Go Girl"–inducing response, the trainer still refused to let up. The conversation continued with him hurling insults along the lines of "You can accept how you look but you can't be happy with the way you look," "I just wish the whole big body acceptance people would accept the fact that they are not happy with their bodies," and "You love food and you know that's not the right way to live."
At this point, Young is over it, and claps back hard. She rips apart the trainer's points one by one, and finishes off writing, "People don't want you to fat shame them because it's FUCKING MEAN TO MAKE SOMEONE FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES BASED ON THEIR APPEARANCE. It's a shitty thing to do, and even shittier to try to convince someone otherwise so you can profit off of it. Get some morals." The message was marked as read, with no response.
She posted the whole exchange to Facebook with an equally inspiring message, and unsurprisingly her entire community came to her support. Young: 1, random, body-shaming trainer: 0.