Shower sex is all the rage in movies, TV and porn, but if you’ve ever tried it yourself you know it's NOT easy.
But one thing we rarely see—apart from the sensual, romantic, pre-sex soak—is sex in a bathtub. Why is this? Sex in a bathtub is actually much more reasonable than a shower: You’re laying or sitting down; there is warm water all around you; and you’re in much closer contact with your partner than in a shower.
Sure, you might be a little prune-y, but isn’t that worth it for a highly sexual bathtub sex experience? We have all the tips you need right here to have truly orgasmic sex in a bathtub.
Relax, wash, soak.
The last thing you want to do is rush this along. While your partner is sitting in the tub, lie on their body, facing them. This way you can kiss and touch while both staying warm under the water.
Take time to sud up—you have all those expensive soaps, bath bombs, and shower gels for a reason. Light some candles all around the tub, and make a whole, sensual scene out of washing each other’s bodies.
Massage each other’s bodies slowly and with purpose. Engage in deep kissing. You can gently wash and massage each other's feet, ankles, knees, all the way up.
Make use of the that side area.
A thing that showers do not have which makes bathtubs sexually superior (in my opinion) is the side of the tub. When water is coming down from a shower, it’s hard to, for instance, not get water up your nose and in your eyes when you’re trying to be sexy.
Have your partner sit on the side of the tub (or sit on the side of the tub, if you’re looking to get it). This way they can give you oral or hand sex while your bottom is comfortably shelved. Plus, your partner can stay in the nice warm water, which will keep them comfy.
Toys and lube are a forever-must.
And whilst you’re up on the side of the tub, use some fun, waterproof toys. Keep in mind that “waterproof” is different than water submersible. Some toys say that they’re waterproof, but once you dunk it under the soapy bathtub they die a painful death.
You don’t want this for you and we don’t want this for you. Read the directions fully, and be sure that your toy is bathtub safe. We love Squish from Unbound and Pom from Dame Products. They’re both small, made from medical-grade silicone, and will not be destroyed when dipped in water.
And don’t forget the lube. When it comes to water, it may seem wet, but it will rinse away all of your vagina’s natural lubrication. Always, always, always use lube. We like oil-based lubes like coconut oil for bath-play. Coconut oil will keep your skin soft and moisturized, while giving you the staying power you need during water-sex.
See more: The Ultimate Guide to Lube for Sex
Penetration is not the name of the game.
Don’t focus on penetration as your definition of sex. You should never really put intercourse on a pedestal (hello, sexual letdowns), but this is especially true when having sex in a bathtub.
Unless you are super rich and happen to have a ginormous bathtub (can we trade lives?) bathtubs offer…limited space. Having intercourse can be both difficult and uncomfortable in that situation—all those weird angles and suffocated limbs. So don’t get down on yourself if you and your partner can't do that specific deed in the tub.
Stick with oral sex and hand sex while playing in the tub. You can always get down and dirty later, when you’re all cleaned up.