You love your husband-to-be to the depth and breadth and height your soul can reach — but you're no Elizabeth Barrett Browning when it comes to putting your thoughts down on paper. As your wedding day approaches, you have a choice to make: Do you pen your own vows, or turn to another to write the words you can't quite express?
Before you make your decision, here are two brides who made opposite choices. Their reasoning — and the results — might help you form your own opinion.
The bride who wrote her own vows.
"I'm not exactly a wordsmith, and before I've had my coffee for the day I can barely get a coherent sentence out," she says. "But for my wedding, it was really important to tell my [then] fiancé how much I loved him in my own words. Yes, they were simple words. My vows weren't flowery or poetic or perfect. But they were mine. When it came time to read them, they were so easy to say because they had come from my heart. I wasn't scrambling last minute to memorize someone else's words just so I could sound pretty. And my husband didn't complain — in fact, though he'd never admit this to anyone, there were definitely tears in his eyes!"
The bride who turned to a friend to write her vows.
"My best friend is a professional writer, so it was a no-brainer for me to ask her to write what I wasn't capable of expressing myself," explains this bride. "And even though I didn't come up with the exact words or phrases that I ended up reading at my ceremony, I still worked with her to come up with what I would say. So, I would say something like, 'I've never loved anyone as much as I love him,' and she would write something much better, like, 'You've taught me what true love really looks like.' Now, I don't exactly plan on telling my husband I didn't write everything myself, but, I'm still glad I did it! It turned out much better than anything I could have done myself."