The best kind of bachelorette party is one where both the bride and the guests are having the time of their lives. But planning an epic celebration takes some work. So how do you ensure your big bash is one for the books? While you can't always please everyone, keep in mind these seven things that secretly annoy bridesmaids at bachelorette parties.
1. Strict Dress Codes
Whether it's forcing all the girls in the group to go out in black dresses while the bride wears white or creating embarrassing tank tops the entire crew has to wear throughout the weekend, nobody really loves a dress code—even at bachelorette parties. Of course, more often than not everyone will happily oblige with a big smile on their faces... Yet they're secretly thinking of how it ruins all the fun.
2. Expensive Everything
Bridesmaids get that they'll have to shell out some serious dough for the bachelorette party. With that said, all the activities shouldn't be over-the-top expensive. One nice dinner is good at a destination bachelorette, but keep the other meals low key for gals on a budget. It's frustrating when the maid of honor isn't considerate of everyone else's financial situation!
3. Paying the Bride's Way
If it's one night out, totally fine. However, now that many bachelorette parties are an entire weekend away, it's not practical to ask everyone attending to split the cost of all of the bride's expenses. See how everyone feels about covering her booze for the weekend or paying for a nice dinner out so she doesn't have to, but don't push the spending limits too excessively. That's much more reasonable than splitting her flight costs or accommodations, which could irk bridesmaids on a budget (or any attendees, really).
4. Too Much Penis
Yes, penis straws can be fun (perhaps not in public) and a silly game of pin-the-Mr.-on-the-man never hurt anybody, but some bachelorette parties can go a bit overboard with the whole penis theme. This can be embarrassing and irritating not only the bride but also to the rest of the girls.
5. Dare Cards
Some ladies don't mind being asked to pluck a random stranger's chest hair at the bar, whereas other shy gals may be secretly super irked at having to partake in a drunken game of bachelorette dare— especially if they don't drink or aren't big drinkers to begin with. Make sure to take the group as a whole into account when planning risqué games in general.
6. An Excessive Amount of Games
A few games are all in good fun and can break the ice with a big group, but keep the number of games to a minimum (shoot for one or two, max). Otherwise, you'll start to lose the attention spans of the ladies and the bride may get uncomfortable being in the spotlight for that long.
7. Unwanted Social Media Shots
This includes (but is not limited to) embarrassing Snapchats, Instagram photos, tweets, and Facebook posts. Whether it's an unflattering photo of a bridesmaid or just a drunken moment she'd rather not have shared with the entire world, many bridesmaids can get secretly annoyed by all the social posts that make it live.