There are a lot of good things that come with marriage. For Anne Hathaway, marriage was the change that finally allowed her to feel comfortable in her own skin.
Hathaway, who wed Adam Shulman in 2012, opened up about the profound way that marriage shaped her to Elle, saying, "He changed my ability to be in the world comfortably." And while Hathaway knows it's a little taboo for women to talk about needing the men in their lives, she's not hiding the value she places on Shulman's role in her life. "I think the accepted narrative now is that we, as women, don't need anybody. But I need my husband. His unique and specific love has changed me," the actress revealed.
Hathaway has long been open about the vital role marriage has played in her relationship with Shulman, previously explaining, "We both talked about it beforehand and how it wasn't going to change anything, but something shifts, and I don't know what it is.... I didn't realize that I was keeping a part of myself protected, and it's kind of all on the line now. I'm his and he's mine."
But as much as marriage has been a huge shift for Hathaway, so has new motherhood. The actress welcomed son Jonathan Rosebanks Shulman nearly a year ago, an event that she says instantly changed her perspective on motherhood and how fellow parents should relate to one another.
"When [my son] Johnny was a week old and I was holding him and I was in the ninth level of ecstasy, I just all of a sudden thought, 'Mommy guilt is invented nonsense.' We're encouraged to judge each other, but we should be turning our focus to the people and institutions who should be supporting us and currently aren't," she told Elle.
And the revelation motivated Hathaway to speak out for other parents, taking up paid parental leave as a cause. Just last week, she spoke at the United Nations about the issue, soon afterward sharing a photo of her son for the first time ever. In it, he watched her speak, captive.
With her speech, Hathaway reflected on the way that becoming a mother changed all of her relationships at once. She described the immediate days after welcoming her son as a time "when I was getting to know a human who was completely dependent on my husband and I for everything, when I was dependent on my husband for most things, and when we were relearning everything we thought we knew about our family and our relationship."