When you're planning your wedding and deciding on your cast of characters, you may have no problem figuring out the group of friends and family members that you'd like as your party of groomsmen and bridesmaids. But when it comes time to figuring out if you're going to have a flower girl and a ring bearer, you may get stopped in your tracks — especially if you don't have any young friends or family members to take on that role.
But rest easy, bride-to-be: You don't have to have a flower girl or a ring bearer, especially if you don't have anyone in mind for the role. You can either choose to skip having those two roles all together, and ask a groomsmen to be in charge of your rings, or you can get creative. By creative, I mean doing away with the age stigma attached to these roles and giving the honor to another friend or family member that's not a bridesmaid or groomsmen. You can even give this role to a pet, who is trained and able to follow the cue of when to walk down the aisle and meet you.
Having a ring bearer and a flower girl is a wedding tradition that dates back to the olden days — you may consider it outdated and instead decide to create a new tradition of your own. If you're feeling bold and want to make your ceremony processional something that is truly one of a kind and personal, you can mix up who you have walking down the aisle or even how the aisle is shaped.
Either way, if you don't have someone in mind for the flower girl or ring bearer role, it's okay to skip it. Your wedding guests will hardly notice or remember once they lock their eyes on that beautiful bride taking her first steps down the aisle.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.