Pre-wedding jitters, especially on the day of the wedding, are normal. After all, the event you’ve been planning for months and dreaming about for years is about to finally happen, and you want everything to be perfect. Let’s not forget the fact that you’re about stand up in front of a bunch of people and promise to love, cherish, and care for another human being for the rest of your life.
That’s a long time—of course you’d be a little nervous.
To deal with those butterflies, many people turn to our good friend, alcohol. We’re not mad at that: A small glass of champagne before your walk down the aisle certainly sets a carefree tone for the day.
But, if you’re not careful, one glass could turn into three, and before you know it, you’ll be slurring your “I dos.” And according to a recent—and totally unscientific—survey from LawnStarter.com, the wedding bad behavior often seen in movies apparently really does happen in real life thanks to a few sips too many.
The company surveyed 1,227 Americans—the only criteria was that they had to have had a wedding—and asked them about pre-ceremony drinking, inappropriate romantic advances, fights, vomiting and whether or not they had the urge to have one last fling before tying the knot.
On average, survey respondents reported having 2.2 alcoholic drinks prior to the ceremony. People in New Hampshire and South Dakota, however, reported having more than 10 drinks on average before saying their vows(!). Meanwhile, brides and grooms in Delaware, North Dakota, Alaska, and Wyoming reported zero drinks—clearly they didn’t need any liquid courage!
The survey also found that there were some guests who probably should have stayed home instead of attending these participants’ events: One in nine said they were hit on at their own wedding by someone they were not about to enter into holy matrimony with.
Shockingly, 9% said there was a physical altercation at their shindig—it seems people in Nebraska and Kentucky are the feistiest. Meanwhile, 3% said someone actually tossed their cookies at their wedding, though it was unclear what caused these vomit episodes. (Too much alcohol? Bad crab cakes? We’ll never know.)
Finally, the survey asked participants if “they had the urge for one last fling at their wedding.” Some people actually did: “Among men, 21 percent said they had that urge, and 12 percent acted on it,” the survey reports. “Women said they were truer, with 10 percent wanting to sleep with someone else, and 6 percent doing so.”
In short, bad things can happen on the most important day of your life—but it’s not incredibly likely.
If you’re really worried about people getting out of hand because of the availability of alcohol at your reception, consider sticking with just beer and wine. Or maybe just go non-alcoholic altogether.
See more: Science Says Women Can Recognize a Bad Match Even While Drunk