The Ultimate After-the-Wedding Checklist: 13 Things You Must Do After the Wedding

Because your to-do list doesn't end at the reception

Updated 04/25/19
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During the chaotic-yet-magical time that is your wedding and honeymoon, it’s easy (and totally understandable) to want to relax after experiencing two big life events. But don’t get too cozy too fast. Many couples forget about the important tasks that they still need to cross off their to-do lists after the wedding is over.

Sorry brides, but that wedding checklist doesn't end at the reception! From sending out thank-you notes to leaving vendor reviews, here’s everything you need to do after the wedding. Consider this your ultimate after-the-wedding checklist.

Send Out Thank-You Cards

The most obvious and important after-the-wedding task? Writing thank-you cards. When it comes to sending these out, the sooner the better. Aim to have this finished within 90 days after the wedding, suggests Brenda Cascio, founder and creative director, and Audrey Craig, president and CEO, of GB Design House and its subsidiary Gracious Bridal, Austin-based lifestyle design companies. “Your mother and mother-in-law will thank you,” says Cascio of observing the 90-day window.

Craig suggests writing them on the plane to and from your honeymoon. The Wi-Fi-free zone will help you focus.

Consider Gifting Printed Wedding Photo Albums

Even in this digital age, people still cherish a printed photo album. After you get your professional wedding photos back, consider giving custom photo albums to your in-laws, family, and bridesmaids (sites like Shutterfly make it easy to design one). These albums double as mementos and gorgeous coffee table books. “It’s a great thing for them to remember the wedding by,” says Craig. “You can customize it so the in-laws’ book will look a lot different than the one for the bridesmaids.” Don’t forget to order one for yourselves too! You and your spouse will cherish the keepsake for years to come.

Ensure You’ve Paid and Tipped All Your Vendors

Double (and triple!) check that you’ve paid and tipped all of your hard-working vendors. Review the contracts just to be sure you didn’t forget anyone. And send payment immediately if you realize you still owe them. Here's a complete list of who to tip and how much.

Leave Vendor Reviews

If you were happy with your vendors, let the world know. The best way? By sending a personal review to the vendor or by posting online reviews. Other brides will appreciate your feedback and your vendors will love the potential to grow their business.

“A testimonial from a happy couple goes a long way. Feel free to tag exceptional vendors on social media too. They love the love,” says John Tobey, a Denver-based event planner with John Tobey Event Design. Tobey also advises writing thank-you cards to vendors that went over the top. They’ve earned the extra praise.

Freeze the Wedding Cake

Toast to your one-year anniversary with a slice (or two) of frozen wedding cake. Ask you caterer to wrap a piece or the top tier of your wedding cake. Have someone you trust (at least enough to not eat the cake) transport the cake back to your home. Cover the slice in saran wrap and then tinfoil before you pop it in your freezer says Cascio. And be sure it’s in a protected place in the freezer. You wouldn’t the cake to get crushed under a bag of frozen shrimp. At the one-year mark, be sure you don’t forget about it, either. The cake can spoil.

Have Your Wedding Dress Cleaned and Preserved

Your gorgeous gown deserves love after you’ve taken it off. If you plan on preserving your dress for years to come, have it cleaned ASAP. Stains will set the longer you wait. Even if you don’t think you'll pass down your wedding dress or veil, you’ll want to remember how fabulous you looked—not the white wine you accidentally spilled.

You can call your bridal dress shop to get recommendations for companies that clean and preserve gowns. Some shops may have discounts on the service that you can purchase along with your wedding dress, says Cascio. Point out the stains (like that aforementioned white wine stain on the bust) when you mail in your dress so the company can remove them.

Repurpose Your Flowers

Don’t toss your flowers, recycle them instead. Besides encouraging your local guests to take home the excess blooms, you also can arrange to have flowers dropped off at hospitals or nursing homes and coordinate the delivery with your florist. “You have so many leftover flowers after the wedding,” says Craig. “Bringing them to a nursing home or a hospital could really just brighten up their day.” Even Meghan Markle donated the flowers from her stateside baby shower!

Reuse Leftover Wedding Favors

Ask your event planner to pick up any extra wedding favors—and then put them to good use. Consider giving them as gifts. Extra cups? Use them in your kitchen. Have any monogramed towels? Use them in your guest bathroom. The key to reusing favors? Leave the wedding date off to prevent literally dating each item, says Cascio.

Give Your In-Laws and Parents a Personalized Gift

If your in-laws or parents helped you out in a major way with your nuptials (maybe they hosted the rehearsal dinner or helped you pay for the wedding), show them that you appreciate their contribution with a personalized gift.

One of Casio and Craig’s favorite gifts? A wooden cheese board and serving tray that’s engraved with your wedding invitation. It’s a practical, personal, and downright beautiful way to say thanks.

Finish Your Registry

Don’t forget to snatch up whatever is left on your wedding registry. Many retailers will even offer discounts on the remaining items. But don’t wait. This offer is usually only good for about 30 days after your wedding, which will fly by. Now’s the time to purchase more expensive items and complete sets. After all, you don’t want one salad plate, three dinner plates and a single cup and saucer. Close out your registry when you’re finished purchasing what you want.

The Social Media Review

“If the bride and groom created a fun, personalized wedding hashtag, the following day is the best time to check the relevant social platforms,” says John Creamer, event manager and wedding specialist at the Pointe Hilton Squaw Peak Resort in Phoenix. “With Facebook and Instagram Stories ruling the content world, newlyweds will want to make sure they take time to view all the fun wedding footage posted before the 24-hour expiration time.”

Properly Store Your China and Silver

If you received wedding china or silver, you’ll want to store it properly. China should be packed well in fabric boxes that zip up, suggests Cascio. “They’re invaluable to keeping such an investment safe,” says Cascio. She recommends not stacking plates too high (the bottom ones can crack under the weight), and placing a piece of felt between each plate. Silver should be stored in silver bags to prevent tarnishing. (Unless you want to be up all night before your next dinner party polishing everything.)

Change the Name on All Your Accounts

Perhaps the most boring, but oh-so important task on our list: Changing your name on all your accounts. No one says that one or either of you has to change their last name. But if one of you does choose to do so, make it a priority to complete the change across the board. “Do this immediately,” says Craig. “Life will happen, and you will forget.”

The list is long, but it’s good to start by updating the most important things first. This means your driver’s license, passport, credit cards, bank accounts, and social security card. Let HR know that you’ve changed your name too. Your company will have to update your insurance and tax information.

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