Let's face it, sex is likely the last thing any new mom is thinking about.
While in the throes of the newborn haze—consisting of sleepless nights, lots of cuddles, and a healing postpartum body—there's limited time and energy to think about much else. Yet, as things heal and mama starts to get her groove back, becoming intimate again will happen, sooner or later.
Getting back in the saddle, so to speak, can be frightening and anxiety inducing. Enormous emotional and mental changes have happened since you've given birth, and what's on most women's minds is how things "down there" may have changed as well.
Brides sought out to help alleviate some of the anxiety associated with postpartum sex by speaking to real moms who have gone through it. And while the first time will, of course, be different for everyone (especially based on your method of delivery) here's what these moms had to say about their experiences—and how sex changed after becoming moms.
Spoiler alert: It wasn't as bad as you might think!
"I had a c-section so there really wasn't much of a difference for me. It was great to just be back at it, once we finally tried. The first two months I was so exhausted it wasn't even on my radar. But you'd be surprised how quickly you get back into the swing of things." — Stacie, 30
"We needed lots of lube, my doctor recommended "Uberlube", and we took it really slow. But practice made perfect. It took me about 14 weeks, even-though I was cleared at six weeks. After knowing an 8 lb. baby came out of there, I wasn't excited to try." — Whitney, 30
"'I have a headache!' and 'I am too tired' are not just excuses. They are my everyday life. I really don't know how I got pregnant with my second daughter.— Tiffany, 32
"I had a vaginal delivery with lots of tears and three stitches, so to be totally candid I was terrified to poop after having a baby, let alone have sex. But when my baby was four months, the amount I missed my husband and how patient he was outweighed my fear, so we tried. We tried in the shower first, with lots and lots of lube, as my friends recommended. I thought I would be gross and disgusting, but it was actually like losing my virginity. Everything felt smaller and tighter, as opposed to what I thought. It wasn't great, but it got better each time. Now, we're back to normal, though no where near the frequency of pre-baby." — Nicole, 32
"After getting past the pain of having sex for the first time after a vaginal delivery (at about nine weeks postpartum), I find that I have sex with my husband now more. I find him so much more attractive now that he is the dad to our daughter." — Elizabeth, 33
"We want a second baby, but my hubby is like, 'We have to do the deed first,' haha. What deed?! Honestly, it feels like a huge accomplishment when I even shower." — Millie, 41
When you're ready to be intimate again, check out these six sex positions, perfect for new moms.