It's normal for long-term partners to go through periods when they're having less frequent sex: Desire is cyclical, and that's nothing to be alarmed about. At the same time, getting creative about reigniting your sex life with your partner can be a hell of a lot of fun, and now couples are crediting a "30-day sex challenge" for doing just that after the challenge went viral on Reddit. Originally posted by an anonymous couple, the experiment is now being undertaken by people around the world, such as a married British couple who kept a diary of their experience with the challenge.
The rules are as follows: You and your partner are supposed to try one new sexy dare every day for a month. If you miss a day, you just add on a day, extending the challenge, but you can't extend the challenge past 40 days. (Of course, use birth control and protection as needed and desired.) Special allowances can be made for work, holiday travel, or menstrual periods (although here at Allure, we see nothing wrong with period sex if you're comfortable with it). Each partner gets two veto days, on which you can skip the day's activity and just have sex however you like. Lastly, you can add your own sexy tasks to the list should you have additional ideas.
As for what's on the list, the challenge puts forth a fun and comprehensive range of sexy activities, including watching porn together, visiting a sex shop, and skipping penetration in favor of oral sex. There's also a day for mutual masturbation (see the entire list on Reddit).
Of course, a 30-day sex challenge only works if all parties are interested and turned on by the idea: Sex within a relationship should never feel like an obligation, and if you feel pressured by this kind of structure, this experience may not be for you. However, sometimes planning ahead for sex ensures we make time for something we really want to do but that can fall by the wayside next to other obligations. If this challenge turns you and your partner, then game on (and don't hesitate to make up your own rules).
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