If you're looking for creative ways to spice up date night with your loved one, these intimate, sexy date ideas are sure to create closeness, no matter what your love language is. Use these ideas—from taking a dance class to scheduling a sexting date—as a starting point to create your ultimate sexy date night, and make sure to cater the evening to each of your preferences and styles.
According to Psychology Today, introducing something new to the relationship is a key part of maintaining a happy, satisfying relationship. Here are our top 15 date ideas that are anything but boring.
Take a Bath Together
A luxurious bath with your sweetie, complete with candles and moody music sets the stage for seduction and one sexy date night. You can go all out with Champagne and bubbles or take the sensory high road with a bath bomb.
Prepare an Aphrodisiac Buffet
Make your next at-home date an edible adventure by trying out a variety of aphrodisiacs with your partner. They could be things that are widely rumored for their seductive properties, like oysters or honey, or opt for science-backed foods like cacao and pistachios.
Whatever you do, take some time to curate the menu and shop for ingredients several days ahead, and prep anything beforehand so the day-of dinner runs smoothly.
Give a Show
Take a cue from the heightened interest in burlesque and perform a personalized striptease just for them. Don whatever makes you feel your sexiest, most authentic self, turn on your favorite tunes, and let the show begin.
Give Each Other a Massage
There are few things more relaxing and seductive than a skin-to-skin massage. Try using a warmed massage stone for an added, unusual twist, or purchase some massage bars for delightful additions.
Plan a Surprise Vacation
Seduction doesn't always have to happen at home. In fact, it may add to the mystique if you plan something for the two of you to enjoy elsewhere. Whether you book a cozy staycation, a weekend road trip, or an international surfing adventure, experts say bonds are strengthened when both parties are willing to do new things together.
Have a Sext Date
The possibilities are only as fixed as your imagination, though if you're new to sexting, sex experts interviewed for an article in The Cut recommend going slow, and definitely give your partner a warning before you send any risqué photos—lest they receive them at work!
Take a Dance Class
From salsa to swing, dancing together reaps more rewards than the opportunity to get physically close. Dancing is an activity that requires patience, cooperation, and trust, which are also characteristics worth cultivating for a solid relationship. In an interview with The New York Times, Richard Powers, a social and historic dance instructor at Stanford University explains, “Dancing increases cognitive acuity at all ages. It integrates several brain functions at once—kinesthetic, rational, musical and emotional—further increasing your neural connectivity."
Spin the Globe
For a riff on travel planning, whip out a map, have your partner close their eyes and point to a location within your home state. Then, go there. You can also put some parameters around the map to accommodate your schedules; like setting the map to only include terrain within a four-hour drive or a two-hour plane ride.
Erotica is powerful and can be used in a variety of ways to seduce your partner. Search the web, buy a book, or write your own and take turns narrating. Go for something you know your partner will like, or push out of your comfort zone a bit; try an idea out that the two of you have never explored before.
Get a Room
Book a chic hotel room in town, pretend to "meet" at the hotel bar after arriving separately, and continue the role play behind closed doors. In the morning, keep the date going with room service breakfast in bed.
Plan a Progressive Dinner
In one date, hit multiple dining establishments by planning for drinks and appetizers at one restaurant, the main course at another, and dessert at a third. If you've still got energy after dessert, pick one more spot for a night cap.
Try to pick a neighborhood with dining options concentrated close together so you can walk to each place, or chart a route that hits spots that have special meaning to your relationship.
Meet Your Neighbors
Are you and your partner feeling social? Connect with what your community has to offer, whether you're in your home city or somewhere new. Services like Airbnb Experiences or Eatwith let you book activities and communal eating experiences, respectively, in locations almost anywhere.
Do the Touristy Thing
Take to your town like a visitor would and sign up for that bus or boat tour, or guided museum tour you thought were just for tourists. You just might learn something new about your own city, and sometimes, a new perspective is just what your relationship needs to keep things fresh.
Other ideas include making a visit to your city's visitor's center to browse the attractions brochures or chat up a representative who can guide you to a new-to-you part of town; or shake up your transportation to your tried-and-true spots. For example, if you're used to driving anywhere, can you get there by bus or light rail?
Pick that one bar, restaurant, or neighborhood you would never go to and go there. Enjoy each other's company while you study your environment; and as a fun game, take turns guessing what every passing character's lives might be like.
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