Why You Should Take a “Soloette” Trip Before Getting Married—And Where to Go

Get some "me time" before becoming a "we."


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It might be especially welcome after a year of close-quartered quarantines, but we’re making a case (now and forever!) for the Soloette getaway. Maybe you need a week of independent restoration or maybe a simple solo weekend will do. Either way, the experts agree it’s important to prioritize some alone time before embarking on a life of partnership. 

What Is a "Soloette" Trip?

A soloette is an independent trip taken prior to one's wedding as an opportunity to embrace a little "me time" before becoming getting married.

Elizabeth Wellington is an expert in cultivating pre-wedding zen. As a proponent of a mindful engagement, she says getting clear and connected to your emotions not only fosters psychological and physical health but will also fortify you for the decision-making that lies ahead as a couple. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, confused, and burnt out by wedding planning, these may be signs you need a solo getaway for rest and reflection. As another perk, this is also a great time to carve out for writing your vows without distraction.

Meet the Expert

Elizabeth Wellington is a licensed therapist and founder of Kinship Collaborative, a platform offering an emotional wellness program for couples to transform the chaos of engagements and wedding planning into feelings of calm, clarity, connection, and confidence.

“During most engagements, we often become so caught up in wedding planning that we don’t pause to do the more substantive work of evaluating what this life-changing transition actually means for us,” says Wellington. “Engagement is one of the most transformative passages of life.  Not only are you about to commit yourself to a relationship forever, but you are fundamentally changing your identity, your family dynamics, and your loyalties.” 

According to Wellington, this new life stage might also include a shift in your boundaries as you align more closely with your spouse and away from others. Spending dedicated time alone during your engagement is crucial to create space for reflection about what the journey from singledom to marriage is bringing up for you emotionally. During your pre-marriage retreat, as yourself questions like "How do I feel about my identity changing in this way?" and "What does this wedding and union mean to me?"

If you’re ready to take yourself on a self-reflection journey, we’ve rounded up 14 of the most rejuvenating getaways to soothe your soloette soul.

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Take a Singlemoon in St. Lucia

Jade Mountain Resort in St. Lucia

This five-star island resort just launched a Singlemoon Package designed for the betrothed seeking some alone time with a side of jaw-dropping vistas. The stunning sanctuaries at Jade Mountain come equipped with en-suite infinity pools, sweeping views, and private butlers who do everything from pouring bubbly to scaling the Gros Piton mountain with you. The Singlemoon Package includes customized meal plans, a spa day, meditation, yoga, and Ayurvedic healing consultations. And if that’s not enough, you can opt to indulge in an onsite chocolate-making class that’s sure to satisfy your sweet tooth if nothing else. 

Rates start at $1225/night or $6399 for the 4-night Singlemoon Package.

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Relax and Restore in Upstate New York

Aerial view of YO1 wellness resort in Monticello, New York

Tucked away in the southern end of the Catskills, YO1 Health Resort offers a new Restorative Wellness Program, specifically created for those suffering from post-pandemic stress. If you’re seeking fresh air and serenity, you’ll find it amidst the resort’s 1,300 acres of bucolic landscape. Every experience here is aimed at soothing your tired mind, body, and spirit through signature wellness therapies, conscious cuisine, and complementary activities that prioritize self-reflection.

Rates start at $649/night.

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Soak up Southern Charm in Charleston

The pink champagne lounge at Hotel Bennett in Charleston

Hotel Bennett marries classic Southern furnishings with European-inspired architecture for an upscale getaway right on the city’s famed King Street and historic Marion Square. If you’re not spending your time in the stunning champagne lounge, indulging at the French-style Patisserie, lounging on the rooftop bar, or relaxing at the spa, you can slip away to the King Club, a private concierge oasis where you’ll be treated like royalty.

Rates start at $449/night.

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Enjoy a Long Stay Getaway in Nantucket

Rustic room at Greydon House in Nantucket

For those who really need a break, Greydon House recently launched a Long Stay Package to take 14 days away, giving you plenty of time to reset. The hotel allows guests to check their phone upon arrival for a digital detox and offers complimentary laundry service, flexible check-in and check-out, and a bottle of prosecco on the house each week of residency. They’re even waiving the pet fee so you can bring your fur baby if you don’t want to be totally solo.

Rates start at $200/night.

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Have a Spa to Yourself in Yosemite

Outdoor lounge and granite waterfall at Rush Creek Lodge

Right on the western edge of Yosemite National Park, Rush Creek Lodge is inspired by the wonders of the world-renowned national grounds. At this nature-soaked resort, you’ll find yourself surrounded by warm waterfall coves and cool mist showers with options to tuck away in an aromatherapy steam room, a Himalayan salt sauna, or an innovative “Sensory Room.” If you really want to make the most of your solo escape, the resort is offering a private use spa package where you can have the entire spa and all its features to yourself for two-and-a-half hours at $1,200.

Rates start at $420/night.

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Indulge With In-Room Treats and Treatments in Dallas

Indoor pool and lounge at the Beeman Hotel in Dallas

If you’re looking for a place where you never have to leave your suite, The Beeman Hotel is offering Bee Zen, a package for those seeking a little all-in-one R&R. Think in-room spa amenities including Essence of Vali mist, eye gels, and sheet masks paired with room service breakfast, a selection of fresh juices, and a bottle of prosecco to top it all off. If you still need a few extra hours in bed, late checkout is included to make this trip a truly leisurely experience.

Rates start at $244/night.

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Escape to a Secret Garden in Palm Springs

Lounge chairs and wild bougainvilleas at the Casa Cody pool in Palm Springs

This garden hideout is the perfect place to thrive and revive. Situated against the backdrop of the San Jacinto Mountains, the resort just reopened in April 2021 after its own time off for restoration. It welcomes guests with winding pathways surrounded by wild bougainvillea and native plants. In the 1920s, Casa Cody was a desert retreat for legends of the arts community including Charlie Chaplin and French-born novelist Anaïs Nin, making this escape especially appealing to artistic bachelorettes who may come to create and linger to be inspired.

Rates start at $199/night.

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Meet Your Wellness Concierge in the Dominican Republic

Yellow villas and private pools at the Eden Roc Cap Cana in the Dominican Republic

Nestled in a beachfront community on Dominican Republic's eastern tip, Eden Roc Cap Cana is an idyllic retreat for a spouse-to-be to get physically and mentally well before the big day. The resort has launched an Endless Wellbeing program where you’ll be guided by a Wellness Concierge who will tailor a program specific to your wellness, fitness, dietary, and mental health goals. The property’s wellness suites include customized in-room aromatherapy and fitness kit as well as a personalized menu at all onsite food and beverage outlets.

Rates start at $650/night.

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Dance it Out at a Dive in Nashville

Yellow monochromatic seventies-inspired motel room at The Dive Motel in Nashwille

Sometimes you just need to dance it out and The Dive Motel in East Nashville is ideal for the bride-to-be looking to let loose. The property offers nearly two dozen, 70’s-inspired rooms each with one-of-a-kind designs. The best feature in every room is the "Party Switch"—with one flip you’ll activate a disco ball that spins to the tunes of “Dive Radio” stations such as Sex, Drugs, Rock & Roll, and Sleep. Right outside your door, you’ll have complimentary access to The Dive Bar and the heated pool.

Rates start at $199/night.

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Choose Your Adventure in Colorado Springs

Outdoor meditation class in Colorado Springs at Garden of the Gods Resort

Known for inspiring the song “America the Beautiful,” the Pikes Peak region of Colorado is home to the world-class Garden of the Gods Resort and Club. Here, solo-rettes can rejuvenate with soothing spa treatments, energy healing therapies, or opt for hikes in the Garden of the Gods park—a national landmark known as a sacred vortex for its healing powers. You can customize your getaway with their Vacation Your Way package that provides a $100 resort credit for one-night stays, $200 resort credit for two-night stays, and a $300 resort credit for three-night stays.

Rates start at $359/night.

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Shop ‘Til You Drop In South Florida

Pool surrounded by palm trees the St. Regis Bal Harbour in South Florida

Located in an oceanfront enclave just north of Miami Beach, The St. Regis Bal Harbour Resort is the perfect splurge-worthy getaway. Away from the hustle and bustle of the island’s southern tip, you can lounge all day on a quiet beach, reach ultimate relaxation at the Remède Spa, and keep up with your pre-wedding wellness on serene jogging or biking trails. Best of all, you can treat yourself to a shopping spree (you do need options for your rehearsal dinner and after-party looks, right?) at the world-renowned Bal Harbour Shops right across the street from the resort.

Rates start at $646/night.

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Go Solo in Seattle

Woman sitting in infinity-edge swimming pool at Four Seasons Hotel Seattle

Explore the bustling downtown around Elliott Bay or suspend yourself in time at the city’s only infinity-edged pool at Four Seasons Hotel Seattle. Resort-style amenities, five-star service, and unmatched waterfront views make this a welcome retreat after a day of embarking on solo activities that might include hiking, kayaking, or wine tasting in the Emerald City.

Rates start at $525/night.

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Tap Into Your Inner Goddess in Detroit

Pink velvet cocktail lounge at The Siren Hotel in Detroit

Inspired by Greek mythology, a hideaway called The Siren lures travelers to the Motor City with its architectural charms and seductive design. Sink into pink-velvet banquettes and imbibe proprietary cocktails at Candy Bar, or drape yourself over the baby grand at the piano karaoke bar to share your own enchanted song. Treat yourself with a touch of nostalgia the next morning at Karl’s, an old-school-style diner (complete with jukebox!) helmed by culinary goddess Chef Kate Williams.

Rates start at $179/night.

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Take to the Open Road

Woman with RV from RVshare on a scenic road trip overlooking mountains

From a California cool van to a farmhouse chic camper, you can rent your ride, roll down the windows, and hit the open road with the Airbnb of recreational vehicles. RVshare was born from real-life matrimony—the founding couple started a business renting out the RV they bought for their honeymoon adventure becoming the first (and now largest) peer-to-peer rental company for RVs. The platform gives you the option to pick up a vehicle in your hometown or have one delivered to a breathtaking locale of your choice, where all you have to do is show up and enjoy the seclusion.

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