Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal's Relationship Timeline

From Twitter flirting to engagement rumors.

Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal

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When it comes to private couples, Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal are the epitome of mysterious. After months of casual social media flirting, the iconic duo has finally given the public a glimpse into their relationship, and now fans are wondering if the alt-folk singer and Normal People actor are engaged. From their adorable Twitter meet-cute to their creative collaborations and *potential* engagement, here is everything you need to know about Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal’s relationship.

  • Phoebe and Paul’s first documented interaction took place on Twitter in May 2020, before they virtually met on Instagram Live close to two weeks later. 
  • The duo collaborated artistically when Paul starred in Phoebe’s “Savior Complex” music video, released on December 8, 2020. 
  • After a year of casual social media mentions and social outings, Phoebe and Paul went Instagram official on December 10, 2021.
  • Engagement rumors started in April 2022, and have continued to gain momentum after a November 6, 2022 article in The Guardian reported that the couple was engaged. 

May 12, 2020: The Tweets That Started It All

Phoebe and Paul’s relationship started with some casual social media flirting and mutual respect for each other’s work. On May 12, 2020, Phoebe tweeted that she had just finished watching Normal People—the 2020 Hulu series starring Paul—and was “sad and horny.” Paul responded to her tweet saying, “I'm officially dead," and Phoebe tweeted back with "Nooo don't die your so talented aha."

What makes the exchange even more endearing, though, is the fact that five months prior, on December 16, 2019, Paul tweeted a screenshot of his Spotify Wrapped, and his top artist was none other than Phoebe. “​​I mean it ain't the cheeriest of lists…,” he wrote. Whether it was foreshadowing, fate, or coincidence, it’s clear they highly admired each other as artists from the start. 

May 23, 2020: First (Virtual) Meeting

Just about two weeks after their initial Twitter exchange, Phoebe and Paul met for the first time while hosting an Instagram Live for Wonderland magazine. During their 23-minute chat, the pair talked about their work, and Paul mentioned how big of a fan he was of Phoebe. “I think it’s well documented that I love your music,” he told her. 

She responded that his comment made her blush, and said that the last time she cried was watching his Normal People character, Connell, cry on the show. Paul then admitted to listening to her song, “Funeral,” while filming to help him get into character. 

Fans commented on the duo’s clear chemistry during the short interview, and The Mirror later reported that Phoebe and Paul stayed on Zoom for drinks after the Instagram Live ended. 

June 12, 2020: Phoebe Calls Paul “Cute”

One reason sparks may have been flying during the May Instagram Live? Phoebe had already confessed to thinking Paul was cute. During an interview with NME—which was published on June 12, 2020—Phoebe said she had just started watching Normal People during the pandemic, and that “the cute boy” from the show (Paul) followed her on Instagram. 

“I got a little pitter-patter in my heart when I saw,” she admitted. The interview wasn’t published until three weeks after the Instagram Live, but the foundation was clearly set for the forthcoming social media meet-cute

July 23, 2020: The Duo Dines in Ireland

It seems the pair finally got some face-to-face time in July 2020, when Phoebe and Paul were reportedly spotted at the ​​Lemon Leaf cafe in Kinsale, Ireland. Even though they weren’t photographed together, the café tweeted about their visit, saying, "Fan-Tas-Tic day thanks to @mescal_paul and @phoebe_bridgers for calling to our café this morning for breakfast.” 

November 28, 2020: Paul's Secret Girlfriend

Though he chose to keep her name out of the press, Paul confessed to having a girlfriend in a November 2020 interview with GQ. What he did say, though, was that her support and guidance had been a “lifesaver,” adding that he didn’t know where he’d be without her during “such a mad, mad time.”

December 8, 2020: Paul Stars in Phoebe’s “Savior Complex” Music Video

Fans finally got to see Paul and Phoebe together in the music video for her song “Savior Complex”. Even though the video, directed by Phoebe Waller-Bridge, isn’t exactly happy, viewers were thrilled to finally see the duo together…at least in a working capacity. 

February 2, 2021: Phoebe Posts for Paul’s Birthday

To celebrate Paul’s 25th birthday, Phoebe posted a cute photo of him holding a bunch of pizza boxes to her Instagram story. "Happy birthday pizza boy @paulmescal," she wrote, with an additional caption that said, “Mmmmmmm” with a red heart emoji.

November 6, 2021: Red Carpet Debut

Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal

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Almost a year after collaborating on “Savior Complex,” Paul and Phoebe walked the red carpet together for the first time at the 10th Annual LACMA Art + Film Gala in Los Angeles, California. Not only did the pair look charming together in their formalwear, but later that evening, Phoebe tweeted about an apparent conversation they had at the event. "Paul thinks thousand island is called hundred years sauce," the singer teased.  

December 10, 2021: Phoebe and Paul Are Instagram Official

After plenty of speculation from fans, Phoebe and Paul finally went official with their relationship in December 2021. Phoebe posted an adorable, caption-less pic of the couple cozying up on the water to Instagram. In the picture, Paul is *almost* kissing Phoebe's head while she smiles blissfully at the camera.  

February 14, 2022: Valentine's Day Post

The Instagram love continued between the pair a few months later, when Phoebe posted for the most romantic holiday of the year: Valentine’s Day. The black and white candid picture shows the couple cuddling on a bed and smiling at each other. 

April 2022: Engagement Rumors Begin

After four months of being an “official” couple in the public eye, engagement rumors started swirling at Coachella 2022. A source reportedly told The Sun that Phoebe—who was performing at the festival—was introducing Paul as her fiancé to other attendees. Since neither Paul nor Phoebe commented on these claims, their status couldn’t be confirmed. 

May 2, 2022: Paul and Phoebe Attend the Met Gala Together

Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal

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Despite the rumors being unconfirmed, Coachella wasn’t the end of the engagement speculation. Phoebe and Paul attended Vogue’s annual Met Gala together in May 2022—the theme of which was "In America: An Anthology of Fashion"—and Paul was spotted wearing a silver band on his ring finger. Even though Phoebe’s finger was bare, it was more than enough for fans to wonder whether the pair would be headed down the aisle soon.

June 24, 2022: Phoebe Sings About Paul

On June 1, 2022, the music video for Phoebe’s new song, “Sidelines” (which she co-wrote with her drummer Marshall Vore) dropped, and viewers spotted a quick clip of Paul about three minutes into the footage. The moody lyrics had fans swooning, with lines like, “​​Watching the world from the sidelines/Had nothing to prove/‘Til you came into my life/Gave me something to lose.”

In a profile with The Guardian, published on June 24, 2022, Phoebe said the love song was partially about her bond with Paul. “Writing about my relationship with only good sh*t, because that’s all I feel, is hard,” she admitted happily. “But it makes it easy when you’re actually having those feelings.”

November 6, 2022: Engagement Rumors Start Back Up

And just like that, the engagement rumors continued after The Guardian released an interview with Paul, stating that he and Phoebe were headed down the aisle. At the time of publication, the piece reported that the duo was engaged, but shortly after, the article was edited to say the couple is "reported to be engaged." Neither Phoebe nor Paul commented publicly on the claims, and the article’s correction states:

“This article was amended on 6 November 2022. An earlier version said that Paul Mescal and Phoebe Bridgers were now engaged; this had been reported elsewhere but has not in fact been confirmed by the couple.”

While the iconic pair is still together, for now, fans will just have to wait and see if it’s a forever kind of love.

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