Exclusive: Lindsey Metselaar’s Chic Palm Beach Wedding

As the host of the wildly popular dating podcast We Met at Acme and a matchmaker herself, Lindsey Metselaar knows a thing or two about the dating game. But still, it came as a surprise to find herself in a relationship—shortly after a breakup and in quarantine, no less—with someone she’d known for nearly five years already. 

Lindsey first met Steven Greene at a mutual friend’s birthday party in 2015. “He went to high school with my college friend Britni, so I always knew of him and he knew of me,” Lindsey says. “But we were always in respective relationships and didn’t speak more than pleasantries.” That all changed on New Year’s Eve 2019, making 2020 a fateful year for many reasons. “We ran into each other at the Soho Beach House New Year’s party in Miami,” Lindsey remembers. “He majorly hit on me. Little did either of us know that two months later, we would be quarantining together and the world would be forever changed as we know it.” 

As it did for countless couples (and was much discussed on the podcast), the pandemic changed the way Lindsey and Steven’s relationship progressed, in their case for the better. “Where we usually would have played it cool, we were forced to be vulnerable with everything that was happening in the world,”  Lindsey says. “We’ve been pretty much inseparable ever since.”

By late summer 2021, Steven knew he wanted to propose; there was just one major obstacle. “I am a very difficult person to surprise,” Lindsey says. “Before the proposal, I had never once been surprised. Steven knew this about me, and he went on a serious mission.” He pulled it off, and even managed a little romance as well.

“He was very traditional about it, which I love,” Lindsey remembers. “He went over to my house when I was away, brought my parents dinner, and asked them for my hand. A month or so later, on September 4, I was getting ready for a dinner I had planned when I got a call from my friend and neighbor, Ryan. Ryan told me he was outside by our pond in a canoe; very routine because our houses are across the lake from one another. I grabbed Steven and told him we had to go to the lake to say hi to Ryan. We got to the lake, and Ryan was nowhere to be found.” She continues: “I got out my phone to call him. Steven took it from me, got on one knee, and said ‘Ryan’s not coming.’ I was truly in shock for the first time in my whole life!”

Back at the house, both of their families were waiting to surprise Lindsey after she accepted Steven’s proposal. “It was the most special moment, and I burst into tears when I saw his sister, who is in residency at Cornell hospital and took the night off to be with us. We had a delicious dinner, and FaceTimed all our friends to tell them the news.”

If quarantine expedited their dating timeline, their wedding timeline was even faster. They planned their dream event in just five months with the help of Taylor Waxman and Kristen Daniel at KED & Co. “As soon as I got engaged, I knew we had to hire them,” Lindsey says. “They had done my friend’s wedding and blew it out of the park. They really make you feel so special on your big day, and go out of their way to make sure you don’t have to lift a finger and can just enjoy. That feeling is priceless.” 

“We would virtually meet every week with our planners and go over where we were at with everything based on a timeline they had created,” Lindsey says of planning during the pandemic. “They made it really easy for us, and we are so grateful to them for that.” 

The result? A chic and colorful citrus-infused affair in Palm Beach that encompassed three days of celebrations. The main event, on February 12, 2021, marked roughly two years of their relationship and signaled a lifetime of joy to come. Read on to see all the lovely details, planned by KED & Co. and photographed by Allan Zepeda Photography.

Lindsey’s vision for the wedding weekend? “Palm Beach chic,” she says. “Lots of colors, but otherwise minimalistic.” She worked closely with planner Kristen to come up with a Palm Beach-inspired design with pops of citrus, and entrusted stationer East Six to develop an invitation suite around the theme. And of course, there was plenty of green. “My new last name is Greene, and green happens to be my favorite color, so we definitely wanted to incorporate it into our wedding in a big way," she shares. Another fun touch? As a play on her podcast name "We Met At Acme," the couple had "We met at PB" placed on welcome bags.

Kicking off the weekend was the rehearsal dinner at “insanely delicious” Palm Beach restaurant Buccan. Lindsey was already aglow, her skin prepped with a Red Carpet Facial at Tracie Martyn before leaving New York. She donned a Danielle Frankel ensemble and Verstolo’s Mia earrings.

“Our rehearsal dinner was so special to us,” Lindsey says. “We asked our friends Britni Bender and David Karsenti to emcee the night, and they were hilarious. Five of our friends gave speeches, and Steven’s mom said a few words as well. Some of the speeches were truly outrageous. My friend and bridesman invited me up to the stage during his speech to read off a private text conversation we had about Steven after we met. Let’s just say it was NSFW.”

The big day began with an A Sculpt Body workout, then it was straight into glam. “I like to go with a no-makeup makeup look,” Lindsey says. “My wedding makeup was an elevated version of that.” Kass Cortez used Armani Beauty Luminous Silk foundation, Tom Ford lipstick and highlighter, and Chanel Stylo Yeux eyeliner in shade 943 to achieve a stunning natural look. 

Lindsey wore a white Morgan Lane set with “bride” emblazoned on the pocket to get ready; her bridesmaids opted for Cosabella pajamas and slippers by Brunch. “I wanted an updo, but I wasn’t sure exactly what,” the bride says of her hair. “We tried one and I hated it, so we redid it with a big low bun and happened to find some pins laying around that we added. It ended up being perfect!”

“I truly had so much fun wedding dress shopping,” Lindsey remembers. “I loved every single dress I tried on.” She was almost certain she had found her dress—and then she tried on this fitted Mira Zwillinger with a sweetheart corset and abstract lace “just for fun.” “The way it fit my body and made me feel, I knew it had to be the one,” she says. “I had only 24 hours to decide since we planned the wedding in five months. When it came down to the wire, my gut said it was the one.”

The bride’s first big reveal was to her father. “I am very close with my dad, and I knew a first look with him would be really meaningful to both of us,” Lindsey says. “It was so sweet to be able to have that moment with him, and I felt really emotional knowing that the day was representative of me ‘leaving the nest.’”

“I’ve been going to Palm Beach with my family since I was younger and it’s a place that holds so many memories for us,” Lindsey says. So with its chic decor—and pops of green!—the Four Seasons Resort Palm Beach set the perfect scene for her destination wedding. “I love that the resort is small and on the beach. We wanted it to be a place where everyone could be on their own little vacation for the weekend and escape the winter.”

“A first look was something I always wanted to do because once the ceremony ends, there is no time for more photos and the sun would have gone down,” Lindsey says. “It’s also just such a special time for the couple; it was a moment for just the two of us to soak it all in.”

Steven wore a classic black peak label tuxedo by Canali. "He wore his late grandfather’s watch, which was refurbished by his dad for the event,” Lindsey says of the groom's accessories. “He also wore GG’s—his grandfather’s nickname—cufflinks. It made it feel like he was with on us such a special day.”

For her own adornments, Lindsey rented a pair of floral diamond drop earrings and a bracelet from Verstolo. “My shoes were actually old,” she admits. “They were Gianvito Rossi and I loved that they had a buckle on them. To be honest, they weren’t comfortable at all, but I was dancing so much my feet were numb so it didn’t matter.” She carried a tight bundle of fuchsia ranunculus and garden roses, tied with a raw satin ribbon.

“Dressing my bridesmaids and bridesman was one of the things I looked forward to most about my wedding,” Lindsey remembers. “I knew I wanted them in a mix of florals and solids, and in three different colors—yellow, green, and blue—that represented Palm Beach. I made a vision board and uploaded all of their dresses to the board next to each other so we could see what it looked like.” Attendants opted for styles by A.L.C., Reformation, Sabina Musáyev, Saloni, Staud,  SIR the label, Ulla Johnson, and Zimmermann. “They ended up looking so great together,” she adds.

“I had my sister as my matron of honor. My husband chose his dad as his best man, which I thought was really sweet,” Lindsey says. The boutonnieres mirrored the ladies’ bouquets: fuchsia ranunculus for the groom and yellow ranunculus for the groomsmen.

“I’ve loved Allan Zepeda's work for a long time, and we remained friends after he photographed my dad’s 60th birthday five years ago,” Lindsey says of their photographer. “I knew that he was an absolute must, and actually checked to make sure our date worked for his schedule before we secured it.”

Before saying I do, the couple did a traditional Jewish ketubah signing. “I found the ketubah on Etsy, from a woman named Rachelle in Israel,” Lindsey says. “She has a store called The Delicate Brush. It reminded me of our invitation.”

A nod to the citrus theme and impending sunset, lush florals burst in hues of yellow and orange down the aisle. At the altar, “Tantawan Bloom and KED & Co. designed a simple chuppah with the sunset and ocean as the backdrop,” Lindsey says. 

The ceremony began at golden hour with the entrance of two adorable attendants. “My flower girl was my niece, Serena,” Lindsey says. “She is the cutest ever, and the only other person I would let wear white to my wedding! My nephew David wore a suit from Tutti; we bribed him down the aisle with a cookie.”

As the wedding party entered, “I was hiding behind the hotel doors so Steven wouldn't see me,” Lindsey remembers. “When I walked up to get in place there were a few bridesmaids and groomsmen who hadn't walked down yet. I motioned so they wouldn't let Steven know where I was hiding.” Ready for her walk down the aisle, Lindsey adjusted her Pronovias veil, a “something borrowed” from her sister. 

“I had always envisioned myself walking down the aisle to ‘I Choose You’ by Sara Bareilles, because it’s such a beautiful song,” Lindsey says. A string quartet struck up the tune as she met her parents at the end of the aisle to walk toward her groom. 

“We found Rabbi Rose through a few referrals, and worked with her via Zoom for weeks, during which she got to know us before the wedding,” Lindsey says. “One memorable moment was when she was singing the seven blessings, we started dancing a little bit. She said we were the first bride and groom to ever dance to Sheva Brachot.” 

“We wrote our own vows and felt it was really important to share them in the ceremony so that everyone there could get to know us a little bit better,” Lindsey says. “We hadn't shared them with each other ahead of time, but somehow we didn't repeat anything that the other person said. In mine, I included a quote I picked up from hosting We Met At Acme: ‘You shouldn’t only like your partner, but you should also want to be like your partner.’” 

“The tallit we used was actually my husband's grandfather’s that he kept from his bar mitzvah, so it was really meaningful to have it with us that day,” Lindsey says. “We stuck to traditions that only we wanted and nothing superfluous. Steven and I are the kind of people who really, deeply care about others and their happiness. We wanted to make sure everyone was having a good time at all times.” 

The sun now set below the horizon, the newlyweds sealed their marriage with a kiss and processed out to Coldplay’s “A Sky Full of Stars.” 

Of the planning process, Lindsey and Steven advise other couples to “Enjoy every single moment. If you are arguing, bring yourselves back to the reason you’re doing this in the first place and remember you are on the same team. It’s all practice for what should be an amazing lifelong marriage.”

Cocktail hour featured a diverse array of appetizers—everything from sushi to pigs in a blanket—and two signature cocktails. “Mine was Diet Coke, since I’m sober, and Steven’s was a dirty martini,” Lindsey says.

For the reception, “Tantawan Bloom and KED & Co. created a clean design of colorful florals,” Lindsey says. “Pops of orange, yellow, and fuchsia, with green trees on every other table. We brought all of the design elements together with East Six’s dance floor inspired by the invitation—a lush border of oranges, palms, and touches of floral.” Place settings featured green linens and glassware, again tying in Lindsey’s favorite color.

The easiest part of planning? “The cake tasting, of course,” Lindsey laughs. The resort’s executive pastry chef, Bashar Shamali, used two types of cake for the four-tier creation: chocolate with vanilla buttercream and fresh raspberries, and carrot cake with cream cheese. 

Upon entering the reception to applause from their 231 guests, the couple performed their first dance as newlyweds to “Invisible String” by Taylor Swift. 

The joy was infectious. “Taking each other aside during the reception and looking out onto everything and saying, ‘Wow, everyone is here for us. It’s our wedding!’ was one of the most special moments,” Lindsey says. “I have done matchmaking in the past, and seeing that there were couples forming at our reception was truly thrilling for me. I really love love!”

“The speeches were all so incredibly touching, blunt, and hilarious,” the bride remembers. “My sister, Allie; Steven's sister, Dana; Steven’s dad; and my parents all spoke.” 

Later, the bride and groom danced with their parents to “Because You Loved Me” by Celine Dion and “My Wish” by Rascal Flats. 

There were a number of surprises at the reception, too—the first for the bride herself. “My dad surprised me with a video of Sara Bareilles sending her well wishes and singing an acoustic version of the song [I had walked down the aisle to],” Lindsey shares. “I immediately started crying, which I rarely do!”

Lindsey’s first dress change was a showstopper. “I happened to be in LA with my mom a few months after finding my wedding dress, and a friend told me I had to check out vintage shop Happy Isles,” Lindsey recalls. “Immediately after walking in, a green princess dress caught my eye. It was not my style at all, but I couldn’t keep my eyes off it. The fact that it was green, which went with our wedding theme and my new last name—I knew it had to be fate, and I had to have it for the big day! I decided to change into it for the cake cutting, since our cake had this amazing green detail.”

“My third look was the one I struggled with the most,” Lindsey says. “After months of searching for something on my own, I ended up hiring stylist Rosie Boydell, who works in London at Vivienne Westwood. She suggested the gorgeous Mini Cora Cocotte dress. I went to try it on at the Vivienne Westwood store in New York City and I was absolutely obsessed. It was the perfect last addition to end the night. I styled it with platform Vans, took my hair down, and the look was complete, not to mention so much more comfortable. It helped me keep dancing until 1:30 a.m.!”

Just in time: The afterparty picked up with music by local Miami DJ Derek Walin and late-night eats. “Chicken fingers are my favorite food in the world,” Lindsey says, “so we had to serve them at the after-party, along with pizza and fries.”

The next morning, the newlyweds hosted a farewell brunch, to which Lindsey wore a pleated  Zimmermann dress and a pair Stuart Weitzmans. “The fact that I was able to wear heels the next morning is a miracle to me!” she laughs. 

Afterward, she changed into a swimsuit (topped with a vintage coverup from Happy Isles in the same trip she found her green reception dress) and the couple hit the beach. The final day of their wedding weekend prepped them for a magical honeymoon to Anguilla. “Anguilla is the most special place in the world,” Lindsey says. “It’s so unpretentious; the kind of place where you can go to dinner with your hair still wet and no makeup on. We can’t wait to go back one day with a family of our own.”