Can a single thought turn into reality? The hype surrounding manifestation has been building for over two decades and arguably peaked during the pandemic. It’s unlikely to be a coincidence. As the world shut its doors and many of us found ourselves stuck inside, there was little to do aside from think and, perhaps, dream.
Of course, visualizing your ideal life and willing it into reality sounds too good to be true. All skepticism aside, though, there are countless individuals who claim that this method has worked for them. If you’re open-minded and wondering how to manifest love, it’s time to take a deep dive into its theory. At Brides, we spoke to manifestation coach Maria Concha to get the low down.
Meet the Expert
Maria Concha is a manifestation coach, speaker, and founder of Manifesting Ninja.
What Is Manifestation?
So, what on earth is manifestation? Chances are, you’ve heard of this practice from books like Rhonda Byrne’s 2006 bestseller The Secret or in the niche corners of internet land (hello, TikTok!). Regardless of how you’ve stumbled upon the topic, the central idea is likely to be the same. “Manifestation is intentionally creating your reality through your beliefs and actions,” explains Concha.
As she puts it, we’re continuously manifesting whether we like it or not. So, you might as well take control of that power and make some positive changes. “We’re manifesting all day long. Whether it’s intentional or by default is up to you. Being conscious and deliberate about our beliefs is key.”
She continues, “To simplify it, think about it like this: I want you to see yourself as a magnet attracting what you are thinking and feeling, which leads to the action you take. What you see in your reality now are the seeds (thoughts and emotions) you planted at a certain point in your life and if you pay close attention, you will see the correlation between your thoughts and what you have in your reality.”
Concha adds, “Your emotions are your guidance system. Paying attention to the way you are feeling when you are thinking about something or someone is an indication if you are in the process of attracting something you want. Essentially, you get what you think about whether you want it or not. The cool part is that you always have the option to choose better thoughts; ones that serve you.”
Can You Really Manifest Love?
Apart from a million dollars and perhaps a private yacht, the number one thing people want to manifest is no secret: true love. But whether you can attract a special someone into your life using manifestation is most certainly open to debate. While many may dismiss the idea as new-age nonsense, Concha says it worked for her and can for you, too.
“You can absolutely manifest love! I did and 10 years later here we are,” says Concha. “And you can also manifest to strengthen the love you already have if you’re currently in a relationship. The longer you focus upon something or someone, the more powerful it becomes and the stronger your attraction.”
If you’re hoping to cast a magic spell on your office crush or that attractive stranger on the train, you might want to think twice. While Concha says you can use manifestation to bring a specific person into your life, you cannot make them fall truly, madly, deeply in love with you.
“The law of attraction finds others who are offering a similar vibration and brings them into your experience. You can target a specific person which may look like them coming into your life somehow, however, you can not manifest someone to love you back. You can only manifest for yourself.”
How to Manifest Love
Now, let’s get to the good stuff. If you want to try manifesting love for yourself, Concha says there are five relatively straightforward steps you can follow. Here’s what you need to know.
Whether you’re looking for a new love interest or want to strengthen your current relationship, the manifestation method is the same.
Step 1: Decide what you want.
First things first, figure out what your ideal relationship looks like. Take the time to really consider what you’re currently looking for in a partner. “Decide on the kind of relationship you wish to be in (this is you planting the seed) without thinking about the ‘how’,” explains Concha. “Remember that your job is to stay in a vibrational match to what you wish to see, not to figure out how exactly this intro will go down, leave that up to the universe.”
Step 2: Visualize it.
"Dream it up in your mind and allow yourself to get excited about it! This is you matching the vibration of what you wish to attract into your life,” says Concha. You might have already dwindled hours away picturing your dream partner but now it’s time to get serious. What do they look like? How do you envision your relationship? What qualities do you hope they have?
Step 3: Embody it.
"Embody the person that already has this love in their life,” says Concha. “Act and behave as if your dream person has already manifested. Embody the version of you that has this relationship. How would you be showing up? Most likely not obsessing over an outcome, taking self-care time, doing things that make you feel good regardless of a partner being in your life or not.”
Step 4: Align your actions.
When you’ve done all of the above, you might find that your ideal person "presents" themself. Don’t ignore that sign. Do something about it. "Taking aligned action is about pursuing and saying ‘yes’ to potential partners that have the qualities that you desire to have in your life and ‘no’ to the ones that don’t,” says Concha. “Don’t entertain or pursue someone who doesn’t match what you truly want. That’s you telling the universe that this is the kind of person you want and so you will keep attracting more of those types of people whether you want it or not.”
Step 5: Surrender.
The final step is perhaps the hardest. The love that you attract might not look how you imagined so Concha says to prepare yourself for some surprises along the way. “Surrendering is simply you allowing love into your life without attachment to one specific outcome or person. It doesn’t serve you to be this rigid, linear thinker,” explains Concha. “In fact, when you’re open to creative possibilities for love, the universe may surprise you and you’ll meet someone totally unexpected. Ten years later you’ll look back and understand why it didn’t work out with all the other ones.” Well, it’s worth a shot, right?