6 Hindu Engagement and Pre-Wedding Ceremonies You Need to Know

Some couples put as much effort into these ceremonies as the wedding itself.

Hindu engagement ceremony

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From food to entertainment, from clothing to flowers, there's much preparation and anticipation that revolves around a couple's wedding day. In Hindu culture, however, some couples put just as much effort into their engagement and pre-wedding ceremonies as they do for the wedding itself. Note that not all Hindu couples participate in the same traditions—it's a matter of personal beliefs and preferences. For those that do, however, it's an elaborate, ritual-rich celebration that takes place before the wedding itself. Sometimes it's a large celebration with family and friends, while other times it is a small and intimate gathering.

Wondering what else you need to know before attending a Hindu engagement party or pre-wedding event? Here are some frequently asked questions:

  • What should I wear to a Hindu engagement party? Similar to Hindu weddings, guests can wear traditional Indian clothes like saris or lenghas for women, and long-sleeved tunics and pants for men. Otherwise, choose a respectful outfit that you would feel comfortable wearing to a religious ceremony as there are many religious undertones to these pre-wedding events. Don't be afraid of bold and vibrant colors! If you are attending a mehndi ceremony and intend to get a henna design, make sure to wear short sleeves so that your hands are exposed. Err on the side of comfort as you may be sitting for a long time and remember that henna can stain clothing.
  • Should I bring a gift? Gifts are not typically exchanged at Hindu engagement or pre-wedding events unless you are a member of the immediate family. You can, however, bring flowers or edible items like sweets, but all you really need to bring are your blessings to the couple and their families.
Hindu Pre-Wedding Ceremonies
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Read on for six Hindu engagement and pre-wedding traditions and explanations of what they represent.

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Mangni or Nischitartham

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The mangni, as it is called in northern India, or nischitartham, in southern India, is the closest event to a western engagement party. After the groom's father gets permission from the bride's father to go forward with the wedding, the wagdaan ritual may be performed so that the couple becomes formally engaged. The to-be-weds also participate in lagna patrika, which is a written vow to each other that the wedding will take place at a later date. These two are considered a formal announcement of the wedding, which will typically take place months later. This is also when the couple exchanges rings.

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Graha Shanti

Haladi ceremony

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Days before the wedding, the couple will participate in a pre-wedding ceremony called the Graha Shanti, a ritual intended to bring peace, prosperity, and happiness to the couple. This ceremony begins with haladi, a purification ritual that involves the married female family members massaging the bride and groom with fragrant oils and halad, a mixture of turmeric, oil, and water meant to bless the participants. Next is the muhurtamedha, a ritual in which the upcoming wedding day is formally declared, and sankalpa, which involves praying for blessings.

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Pre-wedding puja ceremony

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"Most auspicious Hindu ceremonies involve a puja, which is a prayer ritual performed in praise of deities," explains Thusali Kashyap, who's from South India and was married in 2015. "Both families are present and there is usually an exchange of various items and gifts, such as outfits and accessories."

There are numerous pujas completed, and each has its own meaning and purpose. Typically, they serve to bless the upcoming wedding and marriage. After the pujas, the couple is officially pronounced bride and groom, though they will not be married until several days later.

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Mehndi Party

Bridal henna


A mehndi ceremony is an event traditionally reserved for the bride-to-be and her closest female friends and family members. The main focus of the event is the application of the bridal mehndi, or henna design, to her hands and feet. The henna is a paste intended to temporarily dye the skin in intricate designs and requires the bride to remain seated for hours while it dries. Some believe that the darker the color of the dried design or the longer that it lasts on the skin before fading signifies how deep the groom's love is. The ceremony usually takes place one day before the marriage will be held, as the application takes a very long time.

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Sangeet Ceremony

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Traditionally, the sangeet takes place after the mehndi ceremony. The sangeet, which means "sung together," is essentially a pre-party for the wedding where family comes together to sing, dance, and celebrate the wedding festivities to come. It is typical for family members to break out a musical performance where the bride's family performs for the groom's family to welcome them.

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Tilak Ceremony


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Consider the tilak ceremony, the male counterpart to the mehndi ceremony. As you may have guessed, this ceremony is only for the groom-to-be and male family members or close friends. During the ceremony the bride's father and groom's father exchange gifts and the groom-to-be is offered tilak, or paste painted onto the forehead, to ensure he will be a loving husband and father.

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