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Celebrating your love with a first dance is a classic part of any wedding. You’ve likely imagined the embrace, the candlelit room, and how you’ll waltz—or breakdance—with your new spouse to kick off the reception. The only thing missing from that daydream? The perfect first-dance song.
You want the lyrics to be meaningful for both you and your partner, and how your relationship has played out. For all couples, it’s about finding music that feels personal and expresses your tastes. But it's a fact that an overwhelming number of tunes are about a boy and a girl, and that might not fit you or your marriage. Luckily, there is plenty of gender-neutral music about love that doesn't denote specific pronouns.
When choosing a genre for your first-dance song, consider your style as a couple and what type of music you both feel most connected to. Then, narrow it down based on tempo—a ballad if you're planning on a slow dance or something more upbeat for an unconventional choreographed dance.
From Etta James to Beyoncé tunes, here are 65 gender-neutral songs perfect for same-sex and LGBTQ+ weddings.
“At Last,” by Etta James
Lyrics of Love: "At last/The skies above are blue/My heart was wrapped up in clover/The night I looked at you"
“Love on Top,” by Beyoncé
Lyrics of Love: "Baby it's you/You're the one I love/You're the one I need/You're the only one I see"
“Stay With Me,” by Sam Smith
Lyrics of Love: "Oh, won't you stay with me?/'Cause you're all I need"
“Perfect Day,” by Lou Reed
Lyrics of Love: "Oh, it's such a perfect day/I'm glad I spent it with you/Oh, such a perfect day/You just keep me hanging on"
"You Are the Best Thing," by Ray LaMontagne
Lyrics of Love: "The way you move me, it's crazy/It's like you see right through me/And make it easier"
"Love Me Like You Do," by Ellie Goulding
Lyrics of Love: "You're the fear, I don't care/'Cause I've never been so high/Follow me through the dark/Let me take you past our satellites"
"I'm Yours," by Jason Mraz
Lyrics of Love: "There's no need to complicate/Our time is short/This is our fate, I'm yours"
"I Choose You," by Sara Bareilles
Lyrics of Love: "'Cause I could live by the light in your eyes/I'll unfold before you/Would have strung together/The very first words of a lifelong love letter"
"Latch," by Disclosure feat. Sam Smith
Lyrics of Love: "You lift my heart up/When the rest of me is down/You, you enchant me, even when you're not around"
"Truly Madly Deeply," by Savage Garden
Lyrics of Love: "I'll be your dream, I'll be your wish, I'll be your fantasy/I'll be your hope, I'll be your love, be everything that you need"
"Halo," by Beyoncé
Lyrics of Love: "I found a way to let you win/But I never really had a doubt/Standing in the light of your halo/I got my angel now"
"It Had to Be You," by Billie Holiday
Lyrics of Love: "I wandered around, and finally found, the somebody who/Could make me be true, and could make me be blue/And even be glad, just to be sad, thinking of you"
"Thinking Out Loud," by Ed Sheeran
Lyrics of Love: "And darling I will be loving you 'til we're 70/And baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23"
"Make You Feel My Love," by Adele
Lyrics of Love: "I could make you happy, make your dreams come true/There's nothing that I wouldn't do/Go to the ends of the Earth for you/To make you feel my love"
"How Long Will I Love You," by Ellie Goulding
Lyrics of Love: "How long will I love you?/As long as stars are above you/And longer if I can"
"Love Someone," by Jason Mraz
Lyrics of Love: "When you love someone/Your heartbeat beats so loud/When you love someone/Your feet can't feel the ground"
"Boom Clap," by Lennon & Maisy
Lyrics of Love: "First kiss just like a drug/Under your influence/You take me over you're the magic in my veins/This must be love"
"Let's Stay Together," by Al Green
Lyrics of Love: "Whatever you want to do/Is all right with me/Cause you make me feel so brand new/And I want to spend my life with you"
"By Your Side," by Sade
Lyrics of Love: "Oh, when you're cold/I'll be there/Hold you tight to me"
"Unchained Melody," by The Righteous Brothers
Lyrics of Love: "Oh, my love, my darling/I've hungered for your touch/A long, lonely time"
“Stand by Me,” by Ben E. King
Lyrics of Love: "I won't cry, I won't cry, no I won't shed a tear/Just as long as you stand, stand by me"
“I Like Me Better,” by Lauv
Lyrics of Love: "To be young and in love in New York City/To not know who I am but still know that I'm good long as you're here with me"
“Butterflies,” by Kacey Musgraves
Lyrics of Love: "Cloud nine was always out of reach/Now I remember what it feels like to fly/You give me butterflies"
"Mystery of Love," by Sufjan Stevens
Lyrics of Love: "Oh, to see without my eyes/The first time that you kissed me/Boundless by the time I cried"
"What a Wonderful World," by Louis Armstrong
Lyrics of Love: "I hear babies crying, I watch them grow/They'll learn much more than I'll never know/And I think to myself what a wonderful world"
"A Thousand Years," by Christina Perri
Lyrics of Love: "Darling, don't be afraid, I have loved you for a thousand years/I'll love you for a thousand more"
"Come Away With Me," by Norah Jones
Lyrics of Love: "Come away with me and we'll kiss/On a mountaintop/Come away with me/And I'll never stop loving you"
"Because You Loved Me," by Céline Dion
Lyrics of Love: "You're the one who held me up/Never let me fall/You're the one who saw me through, through it all"
"Yours," by Ella Henderson
Lyrics of Love: "'Cause I, I feel like I'm ready for love/And I wanna be your everything and more/And I know every day you say it/But I just want you to be sure/That I'm yours"
"Stay With You," by John Legend
Lyrics of Love: "And in the end, I know that we'll find/Love so beautiful and divine/We'll be lovers for a lifetime, yeah"
"You Are the Reason," by Calum Scott
Lyrics of Love: "I'd climb every mountain/And swim every ocean/Just to be with you"
"Chasing Cars," by Snow Patrol
Lyrics of Love: "If I lay here/If I just lay here/Would you lie with me and just forget the world?"
"Thinkin Bout You," by Frank Ocean
Lyrics of Love: "Or do you not think so far ahead?/'Cause I been thinkin' 'bout forever"
"Love They Say," by Tegan and Sara
Lyrics of Love: "Love, they say there's only one/Love, the kind that's not undone/Love, I know you are the one"
"Always & Forever," by Luther Vandross
Lyrics of Love: "Everyday love me your own special way/Melt all my heart away with a smile/Take time to tell me you really care/And we'll share tomorrow together"
"Heartbeats," by The Knife
Lyrics of Love: "We had a promise made/We were in love"
"Say You Won't Let Go," by James Arthur
Lyrics of Love: "Oh, and you look as beautiful as ever/And I swear that every day will get better/You make me feel this way somehow"
"I Have Nothing," by Whitney Houston
Lyrics of Love: "I never knew/Love like I've known it with you"
"Best of My Love," by The Emotions
Lyrics of Love: "I like the way you make me feel about you, baby/Want the whole wide world to see"
"The Luckiest," by Ben Folds
Lyrics of Love: "I love you more than I have/Ever found the way to say/To you"
"This Will Be Our Year," by The Zombies
Lyrics of Love: "The warmth of your love's/Like the warmth from the sun"
"First Day of My Life," by Bright Eyes
Lyrics of Love: "I'm glad I didn't die before I met you/But now I don't care, I could go anywhere with you/And I'd probably be happy"
"Better Together," by Jack Johnson
Lyrics of Love: "It's not always easy and/Sometimes life can be deceiving/I'll tell you one thing, it's always better when we're together"
"I Will Follow You Into the Dark," by Death Cab for Cutie
Lyrics of Love: "Love of mine, someday you will die/But I'll be close behind and I'll follow you into the dark"
"More Than Words," by Extreme
Lyrics of Love: "How easy it would be to show me how you feel/More than words is all you have to do to make it real/Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me/'Cause I'd already know"
"Wonderwall," by Oasis
Lyrics of Love: "I don't believe that anybody/Feels the way I do, about you now"
"Nobody Does It Better," by Carly Simon
Lyrics of Love: "Nobody does it better/Makes me feel sad for the rest/Nobody does it half as good as you/Baby, you're the best"
"On the Wings of Love," by Jeffrey Osborne
Lyrics of Love: "You look at me and I begin to melt/Just like the snow when a ray of sun is felt/And I'm crazy 'bout ya baby, can't you see"
"You Drive Me Wild," by The Runaways
Lyrics of Love: "Don't hold off do it, I need your lovin'/I'm getting so hot, I'm cooking like an oven/My head is all filled with crazy thoughts/Love like this just can't be bought"
"When I Fall in Love," by Nat King Cole
Lyrics of Love: "When I give my heart it will be completely/Or I'll never give my heart/And the moment I can feel that you feel that way too/Is when I fall in love with you"
"Come Rain or Come Shine," by Ray Charles
Lyrics of Love: "I'm gonna love you, like no one loves you/Come rain or come shine/High as a mountain, deep as a river"
"I Only Have Eyes for You," by The Flamingos
Lyrics of Love: "Maybe millions of people go by/But they all disappear from view/And I only have eyes for you"
"I Will," by The Beatles
Lyrics of Love: "Love you forever and forever/Love you with all my heart/Love you whenever we're together/Love you when we're apart"
"For Once in My Life," by Stevie Wonder
Lyrics of Love: "For once I can say/This is mine you can't take it/As long as I know I have love I can make it"
"Moon River," by Andy Williams
Lyrics of Love: "Oh, dream maker, you heart breaker/Wherever you're goin', I'm goin' your way"
"Just a Kiss," by Lady Antebellum
Lyrics of Love: "When I'm holding you in my arms/We don't need to rush this/Let's just take it slow"
"You're Still the One," by Shania Twain
Lyrics of Love: "You're still the one that I love/The only one I dream of/You're still the one I kiss goodnight"
"That's the Way Love Goes," by Janet Jackson
Lyrics of Love: "I'm gonna take you places/You've never been before/And you'll be so happy that you came"
"Love Is Love," by Culture Club
Lyrics of Love: "Love is love is everything to me/You don't have to touch it to be/Wrapped up in emotion like me"
"September," by Earth, Wind & Fire
Lyrics of Love: "Our hearts were ringing/In the key that our souls were singing/As we danced in the night/Remember how the stars stole the night away"
"Feel So Close," by Calvin Harris
Lyrics of Love: "I wear my heart upon my sleeve, like a big deal/Your love bows down, I mean surround me like a waterfall/And there's no stopping us right now"
"Dreamlover," by Mariah Carey
Lyrics of Love: "Take me anywhere you want to baby now/I need you so desperately/Won't you please come around/'Cause I wanna share forever with you baby"
"Have I Told You Lately," by Rod Stewart
Lyrics of Love: "Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness/Ease my troubles, that's what you do"
"All You Need Is Love," by The Beatles
Lyrics of Love: "All you need is love, love/Love is all you need"
"Sweet Disposition," by Temper Trap
Lyrics of Love: "A moment, a love/A dream aloud/A kiss, a cry"